Dear Anita,

First of All, Thanks a lot! I’m impressed with how much you’re analyzing and trying to connect the dots. I highly appreciate it.

Insecure-avoidant attachment

Yes I think you’re right so I think it’s time for me to IRL again? NGL it’s been a while so… I’m not a shy person as I used to be. (At least that’s what I think) But here’s the thing about my LDRs and IRLs I haven’t approached a girl first… Even Once
So like I’d have to make the first move for like really the First time

being in long-distance relationships with women who never met you is a way to avoid being given the opposite of physical compliments: physical criticisms and perhaps insults.

Hmm I think you’re right

Sometimes you turn your inner criticism outward: criticizing your LDR girlfriend. The so called Inner Critic often turns into an Outer Critic, and back and forth. The two critics are like two sides of the same coin.

I agree.  So How should I start working on that?

Do you carry anger within you, for sacrificing and not asking for anything?

No. Not at all. I’m actually grateful for what they gave me.

do you pay a heavy price for being really calm and friendly: suppressing anger perhaps, or suffering extra anxiety?

Okay so this? I’m not sure about this. How should I figure this out?

Because for a while I’m considering myself Calm and friendly person. So It’s like just a mirror image of my thoughts?

You’d like to share about your irl relationship experience, please do.

Hmm I think it was very exciting. The Talking, Hand in Hand and the physical intimacy. It’s just good. You can’t get that feeling in texting. Hands down. Another is that it happened when I wasn’t mature as I am now. I was always on the edge it was really easy to make me angry that time so if something happens, we are fighting and not talking for days, and I was crazy stubborn (I still am a lil) Even at that time they be asking to be commitment and I wasn’t ready for that at all so Yeah commitment issues as well