Dear Anita,

Hmm I think more or less I’m there..

Like I do mostly stand up for myself. 99% of the case outside the family but inside the family I be like what’s the point? It’s not like they gonna change. Yet I think 70% of the time I think I’m standing up for what seems right to me. Although now my father rarely try to mistreat me after that incident I told you about.

But I also know that what would trigger him and recently we did got into conflict but I was like kept asking what I did wrong and I said you’re being angry for no reason so he just cut the call. And I be like okay I ain’t solving this childish behavior. If he’ll understand he’ll call.. Which he did even though I was surprised

But to be honest sometimes it does make me worried that like all these years why my family is still keeping with up with that behavior

And another thing is that if I did told him like you said “otherwise don’t look at me at all” he’d definitely take this as like disrespectful bomb I may have to find softer way for conflit résolution.. Or just talk to him less as possible 😂