Dear Tee,

Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. covid is still there? Well, I hope you’ll be better. Are you trying lemon-ginger tea though? When I tested covid positive around a year ago
Drinking Warm Water instead of normal tap water and having lemon ginger tea at least 3 times a day helped me a lot

I am not saying that you should be angry at either your father or mother, and go to attack them and tell them all your grievances. No, that’s not what I am saying. But what I am saying is that you need to first accept that certain abuse and false, harmful conditioning happened in your childhood. Even if your parents didn’t know better – even if they didn’t do anything outside of your culture – still, they have harmed you. Their parenting left a mark on you, left certain wounds in your psyche, which you need to heal. If you want to have a happy and fulfilling life.

Admitting that the damage happened – even if your parents didn’t do it on purpose – is the first step to healing.

*Sighs* Well yeah I already accepted that I didn’t had the best childhood emotional needs…
And I’m not angry at my parents at all
But I said those things because It’s better NOW
But you’re right damage is already done in the childhood and that I have to focus and heal

Starting of this thread Anita told me this,

“like lot of people my parents didn’t knew my emotional needs and they did what they thought is right for me. They just wanted to protect me“-

– unfortunately, consequences don’t care about reasons and intents: a child gets hurt in certain ways because of parents’ behaviors regardless of the parents’ intent or  ignorance vs. knowledge/ education. Think of it this way, if you will: when you drop a piece of glass to the floor, it breaks regardless of your intent (dropping the glass on purpose or by accident), and regardless of your ignorance vs knowledge/ education (knowing or not that this particular glass will break if dropped to the floor)

And that’s true. Because without accepting, I can’t start my healing journey