Coucou Tee,
How are you feeling today?

Oh so you would be leaving to another company? I thought you’d be moving up the ladder in your current one… What made you want to leave so soon, after only 3 months of being a manager there?

Yes. Actually, my manager knows this company’s VP well so that’s why he gave me this opportunity. It’s more suitable role because of my diverse skillset with more responsibility. my manager said that VP is really skilled and I can learn a lot from than him.
He said that because I made some processes efficient in few weeks that he couldn’t do in months.

 

Well, it is sort of sudden… Although you’d probably manage to get used to the new people, just like you did with your current team. You say you feel “too much comfortable” around them – does it mean the atmosphere is pleasant and you work well together as a team? What about the changes and improvements you’ve introduced – are you pleased with that?

I don’t know I think it just take efforts for me to get comfortable about new people. and Comfortable by I mean like Not super serious work environment. Which I prefer. Fun and focused team. We make fun of each of other and just comfortable share things which is more than work. Not too much personal but still it feels more connected that way than working with robotic people who are only focused on work you know what I mean? Yet still we finish our projects before deadline.

Also I think I did help a little for more collaborative and connected team from the changes that I’ve introduced. Remember I told you about the vulnerability. Also recently I requested company to give all employees Headspace – Meditation Premium App subscription for free which they’ve accepted. And main thing I taught team how to have more Product-led growth approach.
Am I pleased with that? Well so far I’m pleased but I think I could still do something more.

The title of the video is “Why it’s important to stay connected“. In the first 2 minutes there’s a bit of rambling, but after that he gets into the meat of it – definitely worth watching!

Thanks for sharing, I’ll watch the video and let you know.

I see… so it seems your fear of a long-term commitment got triggered when she mentioned  it, and your knee-jerk reaction was to run away. A while ago we talked about a committed relationship and freedom, and how it is possible to have both, of course with the right person. But I guess you fear was stronger, so you didn’t want to even try to see what happens next in the relationship and if such compatibility is possible. You called it quits immediately. I am not saying this to judge you, but so you can notice what happened…

Yes you guessed it right. She said it so seriously that I was kind of caught in the middle and I didn’t know what to say and my response was to run away. And yes I do remember we talked about a committed relationship and freedom. But I guess my heart wasn’t ready accept it fully? Maybe That’s why I didn’t even thought about it much and responded this way. And I actually felt like I’m out of some trap after that.

Well, it could be that she’s already experienced quite a few failed relationships and would like at least a chance at something serious? That the guy she is dating doesn’t categorically refuse such an option…

Hmm right dating is exhausting and maybe for women even more exhausting? I guess since most of the time there’s one partner after another.

Maybe her question scared you away, because you thought she’ll be expecting you to marry her? But perhaps she only asked if you’re open to a long-term committed relationship, i.e. don’t exclude this possibility from the get-go?

Yeah it did scared me because I’m scared for a commitment first. But you right perhaps she was asking just for that long-term possibility.