Hello Kathy,

I think you are right — shame is like a chronic disease. The good thing about it is that you could transform shame by sharing it with someone you trust. It won’t have the same power over you eventually. I’m sorry that you carried the shame for so long.

It’s normal to feel jealous of someone who has something you want so badly. You are allowed to have desire.

Self-criticism on top of feeling grief about not having something only further hurts your self-esteem. No need to punish yourself more.

You are good enough to be loved.

Warmly,

Kelly