Kelly Nguyen is a Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Intern from San Francisco who specializes in working with cultural issues and working with loss. She holds a Master’s degree in Integral Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. Visit her site at www.kellynguyentherapy.com.
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April 14, 2013 at 9:53 am #33796
Thanks for the suggestions! I will definitely take them into consideration. And thank you for “Liking” my FB page http://on.fb.me/12P7CJD. It’s a slow start but a start. Thanks again!
KellyApril 12, 2013 at 6:34 pm #33783
I completely understand why you medicated yourself with relationships. It comes down to love. When in longing, we reach for the best of the bad because it’s the closest to the good. And leaving your 16 year relationship is a BIG deal. Congrats on that very big step. Not easy I am sure.
KellyApril 12, 2013 at 4:16 pm #33780
Thanks for taking the time to check out my FB page. Yes, you are right! I had nothing on the FB page. I’ll translate some of the material from my website over. Great idea!
Thanks! And yes, Quality > Quantity
KellyApril 4, 2013 at 9:33 am #30496
I think you are right — shame is like a chronic disease. The good thing about it is that you could transform shame by sharing it with someone you trust. It won’t have the same power over you eventually. I’m sorry that you carried the shame for so long.
It’s normal to feel jealous of someone who has something you want so badly. You are allowed to have desire.
Self-criticism on top of feeling grief about not having something only further hurts your self-esteem. No need to punish yourself more.
You are good enough to be loved.
KellyApril 3, 2013 at 8:13 pm #30422
Oh I love flowers especially hand-picked exotic botanicals. It’s like a free gift from Mother Nature that’s meant to give us a healthy dose of happy.April 3, 2013 at 8:11 pm #30421
I love that you surrender to a greater source for connection and to hold you in the space of loneliness.
KellyApril 3, 2013 at 8:09 pm #30420
Thanks for sharing. It’s true. Loneliness is something that you could feel even if you are surrounded by a million people. In fact, it could feel even lonelier when you are surrounded by friends, family members or your lover who do not get you. And yes, having meaningful conversations about what’s real with people is what helps.
KellyApril 3, 2013 at 5:04 pm #30391
Thank you for sharing your shame. I believe that when you share your shame with someone you trust, the shame will eventually lose it’s power. So thank you for trusting this e-forum to share your story.
I also believe that it’s important to have the capacity to receive just as it is to give. While giving is important, we also put ourselves at risk of becoming completely depleted when we desperately need to receive in moments. I wish for someone to braid your hair and …more.
KellyApril 3, 2013 at 4:46 pm #30386
Buying into shame or fear can certainly be detrimental to our emotional health. I am impressed that you were able to sit with your intense feelings and thoughts. It sounds like your awareness got you in touch with your beautiful affirmation, “I’m unbroken” and to move through the feelings of shame. The other affirmations I had in mind as I read your story are… “I AM Enough” and “I AM Okay.” Thank you for sharing.
I have a face now although the Buddha’s face is quite magical. 🙂April 3, 2013 at 3:23 pm #30358
Oy. Not fun! That’s like a high schooler dumping you by sticking a post-it note on your locker door. Crappy! How someone ends a relationship tells you a lot about their developmental growth. This person has a lot of learning to do. Unless you want to continue to date a juvenile, you are way better off moving on!