Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Why You Can’t Relax and How to Let Yourself Rest
“Rest and be thankful.” ~William Wordsworth
A few years ago, I caught myself doing something that made no sense.
It was late evening, my kids were asleep, the house finally quiet. I’d been counting down to this moment all day—dreaming of sinking into the couch, wrapping myself in a blanket, maybe even reading a book without distractions.
But when I lay down and closed my eyes, something inside me lurched. Within seconds, I reached for my phone. I didn’t even have anything urgent to check—just mindless scrolling. Five minutes in, I was already half-sitting up, wondering if I should fold …
How Self-Portraits Brought My Messy, Honest, Beautiful Self into Focus
“And then I realized that to be seen by others, I first had to be willing to see myself.” ~Anonymous
In a world that teaches us to be visible only when we’re polished, productive, or pleasing, I found something unexpected on the other side of my camera: myself.
But not the filtered version. Not the composed one or the “smiling because I’m fine” version.
I found the person I’d forgotten—the one who had spent years loving, giving, showing up for everyone else but rarely turning any of that tenderness inward.
I didn’t pick up the camera to take pretty pictures. …
The Power I Now Carry Because of My Illness
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
For years, I thought strength meant pushing through. Getting on with it. Holding it together no matter what. Not showing weakness. Not needing help. Not slowing down.
Even when I was diagnosed with a chronic illness, I wore that mindset like armor. I was determined not to let it define me—let alone derail me.
But eventually, it did. Not because I was weak. But because I was human. And that was the beginning of a different kind …
The Truth About My Inner Critic: It Was Trauma Talking
“I will not let the bullies and critics of my early life win by joining and agreeing with them.” ~Pete Walker
For most of my life, there was a voice in my head that narrated everything I did, and it was kind of an a**hole.
You know the one. That voice that jumps in before you even finish a thought:
“Don’t say that. You’ll sound stupid.”
“Why would anyone care what you think?”
“You’re too much. You’re not enough. You’re a mess.”
No matter what I did, the critic had notes. Brutal ones. And the worst part? I believed every …
Why AI Can Never Replace Us: The Truth About Being Human
“AI accidentally made me believe in the concept of a human soul by showing me what art looks like without it.” ~Unknown
What is intelligence?
I’ve asked this question all my life—as a teacher, a filmmaker, a researcher, and now, as someone losing my vision to macular degeneration.
I ask it when I watch students find their voice.
I ask it when I listen to a close friend of mine, a world-renowned cosmologist, whose knowledge seems limitless but whose humility runs even deeper. He can discuss black holes one minute and quote the Tao Te Ching the next. He doesn’t …
Brilliant, Not Broken: A Powerful Reframe for Neurodivergence
“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” ~Audre Lorde
For most of my life, I asked myself a quiet question:
What’s wrong with me?
I didn’t say it out loud. I didn’t have to. It was stitched into how I moved through the world — hyperaware, self-correcting, and always just a little out of step. I knew how to “pass” in the right settings, but never without effort. Underneath it all, I was exhausted by the daily performance of normal.
Looking back, it’s clear where it started.
I …
Could Curiosity Be the Best Medicine for Chronic Illness?
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” ~Henry Ford
We’ve all been there: happily ticking off life’s checkboxes, certain we’ve cracked the code, until—bam!—life decides otherwise. Divorce papers, layoffs, grief, or unexpected illness—life’s curveballs don’t discriminate.
For me, it was a sudden mystery illness at sixteen. What should have been a simple infection changed the trajectory of my entire life. Doctors were at a loss, tests offered no answers, and I was left navigating an uncertain reality, desperately clinging to control as my lifeline.
One day I’m cheering at the Friday night football …
When Someone You Love Shuts the Door
“It is one thing to lose people you love. It is another to lose yourself. That is a greater loss.” ~Donna Goddard
We didn’t mean to fall into anything romantic. It started as friendship, collaboration, long voice notes about work, life, trauma, and healing. We helped each other solve problems. We gave each other pep talks before difficult meetings. He liked to say I had good instincts; I told him he had grit.
We shared vulnerabilities like flashlights in the dark—he told me about getting into fights, going to jail, losing jobs because he couldn’t keep his mouth shut. I
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