Posts tagged with “wisdom”
The Small, Simple Acts That Shifted Me Out of Survival Mode
“True healing is not a straight line. It is a spiral. You come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.” ~Barry H. Gillespie
I used to believe healing would be obvious. Like a movie montage of breakthroughs… laughter through tears, epiphanies in therapy, and early morning jogs that end with a sunrise and a changed life. But that’s not what healing looked like for me.
It looked like dragging myself out of bed with puffy eyes after staying up too late crying. It looked like brushing my teeth when everything in me whispered, “Why bother?” It …
Planning Without Panic and Learning to Live in the Now
“You can plan for a hundred years. But you don’t know what will happen the next moment.” ~Tibetan proverb
Some days it feels like a fog I can’t shake—this underlying fear that something painful or uncertain is just around the corner.
I try to be responsible. I try to prepare, make good choices, take care of things now so the future won’t unravel later. But beneath that effort is something harder to face: I feel helpless. I can’t control what’s coming, and that terrifies me.
Maybe you’ve felt this too—that tension between doing your best and still fearing it’s not …
How I Broke Free from a Narcissistic Family System
“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”~ Carl Jung
My mom had always been invested in real estate. I remember snacking on open house charcuterie years before we finally purchased a house to flip—the first of four. By the time I was eighteen, we’d moved five times.
I knew our family was falling apart by renovation number three.
I had spent the previous few years experiencing suicidal ideation and was now on a strict cocktail of seven or so psychiatric and neurological medications.
My brother …
I Lost My Father—and the Illusion of My Mother
“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” ~Eckhart Tolle
In July 2023, my father died in a tragic accident. We were devastated—my sisters, my mother, and I. Or so I thought.
What followed in the months after his death forced me to confront the truth of my mother’s emotional disconnection, a truth I had sensed but never fully allowed myself to see. In losing my father, I also lost the illusion of the mother I thought I had.
A Sudden Exit
By September, just two months after my father’s death, my …
Left-Side Pain: A Powerful Messenger for My Abandoned Parts
“The body always leads us home… if we’re willing to listen.”
For over a decade, I lived in a body that tried to tell me something I wasn’t ready to hear. But eventually, it got louder—loud enough that I could no longer ignore the message.
It started with migraines—always on the left side.
Then came a string of sinus infections and dental issues—again, always on the left.
Lumps formed in my left breast. Then pain in my left ribs. Then a left-sided numbness that made doctors run MRIs for multiple sclerosis. Every test came back normal. And yet my body …
Raised on Their Best Intentions—Healed on My Own Terms
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~Kahlil Gibran
There are two versions of me.
There’s the one I am now—the grounded, present woman who holds space for others, who guides people toward healing, who walks barefoot through the grass and whispers affirmations while sipping her coffee.
And then there’s the other version. The one who barely made it. The one who used to stare into her fridge not out of hunger but as a distraction from the ache in her chest. The one who didn’t feel at home in her …
The Truth About Why I’ve Ghosted People (and What I’ve Learned)
“Ghosting is cruel because it denies a person the chance to process, to ask questions, or to get closure. It’s emotional abandonment, masquerading as protection.” ~Dr. Jennice Vilhauer
I never set out to ghost anyone.
In fact, I used to hate ghosting with the burning fury of a thousand unread dating app notifications. I told myself I’d never be that person—the one who disappears mid-conversation, fails to reply after a good date (or sends a very bland thank you message), or silently vanishes like a breadcrumb trail to nowhere.
And yet… here I am. Writing a post about how I’ve …
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