Posts tagged with “wisdom”
The Monumental Trap of Overworking Yourself for Recognition
“Expectations are premeditated resentments.” ~Unknown
Yesterday, I found myself sitting across from my boss, fighting back tears as I voiced something that had been eating away at me for three years: “I don’t feel valued enough.”
The words felt heavy in my throat. As a law professor, I’d always prided myself on being composed and professional. But in that moment, all my carefully constructed walls came crumbling down.
“I put in extra hours. I mentor people. I’m always available when someone needs help,” I continued, my voice barely above a whisper. “But it feels like nobody really appreciates it. Like …
If You’re Afraid of Making a Big Life Change
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts
I used to think that stability was the key to happiness. Stay in one place, build a career, nurture long-term relationships—these were the pillars of a successful life, or so I believed.
My life was a carefully constructed fortress of routine and familiarity. Wake up at 6 a.m., commute to the same office I’d worked at for a decade, come home to the same apartment I’d lived in since college, rinse and repeat. It was safe. …
5 Hidden Ways Codependency Is Sabotaging Your Relationships
“We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.” ~ Melody Beattie
I first uncovered codependency and how it was ruining my relationships back in 2019 after ending my relationship of four years.
At the time, I didn’t know the first thing about myself—except that I didn’t know myself at all. I had no idea what I needed or desired. All I knew was that I hated being alone and longed …
Live a Life You Love: The Magic of Following Joy
“Some people are empowered by travel and some are inspired by the warmth of home. Some thrive in the spotlight and some feel called to support those who are on stage. Some people are comfortable half-dressed and cussing like sailors and others prefer modesty and gentleness. The thing is: we are all empowered and inspired in different ways, and it’s not our job to decide what that looks like for anyone else.” ~Brooke Hampton
In 1992, the Olympic Games were on, and my dad was glued to the screen. He called me over to watch with him, and though I …
4 Lessons I Learned from Leaving a Toxic Relationship
“It takes strength and self-love to say goodbye to what no longer serves you.” ~Rumi
I promised myself at a young age that when I got married, I was not going to get divorced, no matter what! My parents had divorced when I was five, and I knew that I didn’t want to put my kids through what I’d experienced as a child who grew up in a “broken” family. I wanted my kids to know what it was like to live in a house with both their parents present and involved in their lives.
So, when I found …
How I’ve Become My Own Source of Love and Reassurance
“Create a safe space within yourself that no one will ever find, somewhere the madness of this world can never touch.” ~Christy Ann Martine
Losing my grandmother was like losing the one person who had always been my anchor. She was my steady rock, my quiet cheerleader, and the only person who truly made me feel that I was perfectly fine, just as I was. I never had to pretend around her or hide my mistakes or messiness.
She had this way of being present and calm, even when life around us wasn’t, and that gave me a sense of …
To the Parent Who’s Stressing About Being Imperfect
“Your greatest contribution to the universe may not be something you do, but someone you raise.” ~Unknown
Have you ever heard the saying, “Mama knows best” or “If mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy”? Honestly, who decided that moms should know everything and that the entire emotional balance of the home rests solely on their shoulders? Isn’t Mom a human too? A beautiful soul navigating this life, trying to figure things out just like everyone else? How is it fair that we pile all the pressure onto this one person—the keeper of the schedules, the task doer, the tender space for …
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