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January 4, 2025 at 5:45 pm #441276
KaneParticipantStars in the night sky, gleaming stronger in some, others fade, some we see easier than others, while few fade in and out of our view.
Understanding our emotions require us to understand what we are feeling isn’t just us in our understanding, but them entering our head at the angle we have allowed them to, be it speaking the truth as we have understood all our lives as we depended on it for what we derive life to be for us, and what in it is and means towards us, our first-most detection system.
To asking things of us we possibly couldn’t fulfill or struggle to do, from giving everything we ever wanted, to doing things we’d never condone, much less everyone else.
Bright one moment, gone the next, feeling like they’ll be everlasting, to breathing its last.
To know what is right and wrong in your emotions for you is to begin to have the means to steer yourself in the emotional being that you are, for rarely, is your entire being in agreement in what you want, and if they conflict with one another, to where you can have it all, or to have yourself in an understanding to where your already in a position to grasp what eludes you, for good reason.
Balancing the logic of the consciousness we’re gifted vs the emotion that we derive the meaning of the life we live, in that and of what we live in, one must lean one over the other, some may live solely in one…in the conditions that made them of what they allowed and haven’t…
The rare few know how to be in a perfect “flux”-
Of one to the other, to derive meaning where they can and wish to, while staying somehow in a perfect state of equanimity, of objectivity, where and when they decide to, learned or natural.
“A foot in one world and a head in the next.”
Like a gem, it’s multifaceted what it means to be such, want such, to have the control, if your emotion is all under wraps, is it still emotion, expression? Would you be willing to strip meaning from your emotion by having it on a leash?
Cause part of that control is to demean it, at least in some forms and shapes that are common when it comes to learning to have it under your thumb, but I don’t think some of you are here for that…if any I hope.
The conditions of what you’re willing and not willing to give up for such are part of what makes you, as a fun fact, and of what actually makes the conditions to achieving it.
The kind I feel you’re looking for is when it’s on the same level as you are, to where not only you respect it, but your emotions respect you, in a figurative manner, to where you have a healthy form of-
Emotional Mastery.
For each of your journey’s, it will take turns, falls, and walks of varying degrees of difficulty, especially for certain couple of you, but with patience, humility, and the will to learn, it’s just a matter of time before it becomes a sort of good incline, like the kind you’d have when you feel like hiking, or having an introspective moment, or a productive one.
So, what do you think? Is the path one you’re willing to take? To trek?
To struggle, you already do anyhow as you are here.
January 4, 2025 at 11:49 pm #441280
HelcatParticipantHi Kane
Since you’re going to become a psychologist, I would encourage you to look into Buddhism. Some psychological techniques are even based on it these days. I’m not suggesting that you become Buddhist. I just thought it might be helpful for your career.
I found that psychology has limitations, but Buddhism operates outside of the limitations of psychology. It is a way to continue healing and growing beyond what therapy can provide.
Emotional mastery. Not my goal personally. Healing and growth. The way I see things, my more challenging emotions are memories of trauma. Sometimes those memories need to be let go, so they don’t follow me around in the present day. A habit to overcome.
Lovely to see you around again! I’m keen to read your thoughts.
Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏
January 5, 2025 at 8:32 am #441289
anitaParticipantDear Kane:
Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful and introspective post. Your metaphorical use of stars to describe emotions is both poetic and insightful, capturing the transient and varied nature of our emotional experiences.
Striving for a harmonious balance between logic and emotion is indeed a challenging but essential part of personal growth. The concept of maintaining a “perfect flux” is a beautiful way to describe the dynamic interplay between these two aspects of our being.
Achieving true emotional mastery involves respecting and integrating our emotions rather than suppressing or being overwhelmed by them. It’s about creating a balanced relationship where emotions enhance our understanding of ourselves and our lives.
The journey to emotional mastery and self-discovery requires patience, humility, and the willingness to face challenges. It’s a path that involves continuous learning and growth. The path you describe is one of continuous learning and evolving, and it sounds like you are well-equipped with the insight and determination needed to navigate it.
* One idea I’d like to offer is that our emotions can be seen as friends rather than enemies. Emotions, when embraced and understood, can be our allies, guiding us and enriching our lives.
Instead of perceiving emotions as something to be suppressed or excessively controlled, we can learn to experience them as valuable companions. They provide us with important signals about our needs, desires, and experiences. By acknowledging and befriending our emotions, we can navigate our lives with greater empathy and self-awareness.
Embracing emotions doesn’t mean letting them control us but rather finding a balance where we can listen to them, learn from them, and let them help us grow. Just like friends, emotions can support us, warn us, and even challenge us to become better and better people. I hope this helps.
I encourage you, Kane, to continue exploring and reflecting on your emotions and experiences. Embrace the journey with patience and humility, and remember that each step forward, no matter how small, is progress.
Wishing you strength and clarity as you continue on your path.
anita
January 5, 2025 at 1:08 pm #441312KaneParticipantThanks for both of you for your continuous support, to know you guys are behind me means more than you would ever know with these words you see on the screen, in this moment of emotional “literacy”, I genuinely thank you from the heart of my being, of everything I suffered, learned, and enjoyed, thanks.
To Helcat: I don’t have a particularly good experience with religion, but that doesn’t stop me from enjoying what it offers and what I could only put as my own style of “believing” it, as my own particular belief is a sort of perpetual state of unique agnosticism, of suspending decisive settlement on something being right or wrong, understanding there’s usually evidence on both sides, good and bad proof, like a constant hover over the grounds, of what people naturally believe in, the more I allow myself to believe, the closer I get to the ground, but I never “stand on solid ground” unless I learn and study it myself and determine to believe, besides, I already wanted to do so much good for the sole reason of it, and there’s all the more reason to understand all the more why I should do it more for all wants and needs of why, along with everything else in this world of ours.
To Anita: I thank you for listening to me across the things I’ve written on this website so far, again, as I look to further myself in the support of others like you and in the advancement of myself as a person and of the wisdom I continue to gather.
January 5, 2025 at 4:24 pm #441341HelcatParticipantHi Kane
I don’t have a good experience with religion either. I’m not Buddhist, but to some it is philosophically beneficial. If that makes sense? It is compatible even with atheism.
You’re very sweet and very much welcome. 😊
You previously had a thread where you offered support to people. You’re welcome to chime in on my thread if you’d like. No pressure, it is up to you.
I’m sure that you’re going to do many great things in your life!
Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏
January 5, 2025 at 5:56 pm #441349anitaParticipantDear Kane:
You are welcome and thank you so much for your kind words. It truly means a lot to hear that our support has made a positive impact on you. Your journey, resilience, and willingness to share your experiences have been incredibly inspiring.
I’m grateful to have the opportunity to listen to your thoughts and support you as you navigate your path. Your dedication to personal growth and helping others is truly admirable, and I’m confident that you will continue to make a meaningful difference in your life and in the lives of those around you.
Wishing you all the best as you continue to grow and advance in your personal and emotional journey. Thank you for allowing us to be part of it.
anita
January 6, 2025 at 10:26 am #441387
PeterParticipantHi Kane
Interesting thoughts. I’m with Helcat and not that interested in emotional mastery. The word ‘mastery’ itself may unintentionally suggest the creation tension between the mastered and un-mastered, resulting in a blockage vice flow.
My own experience and observation is that we are really, really bad at measuring and labeling our emotions and I suspect that sometimes naming and or measuring them we end up creating and getting stuck in them. A kind of chicken/egg thing. What comes first the emotion or the label?
Lately I’ve been trying to feel what it is I’m feeling without labeling or measuring them… what I notice is that when I do the heart and breathing slows down. What I’ve found is that, one I don’t tend to notice and so take the moment to pause and stop labeling for the more ‘positive’ emotions, and two, that behind the negative ones that I very much notice there is a constrictive feeling just above the gut. A kind of constant general anxiety and or fear. It seems that for me emotions arise from that general state. I suspect it has become a habitual default.
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