Dear Readers:

First, what the term means (Copilot): “A personal reckoning is a moment—or process—of deep, honest confrontation with oneself. It’s when someone faces truths they may have avoided, questioned their own beliefs or behaviors, and begins to integrate what they’ve learned into how they live.

Core elements of a personal reckoning:

* Self-confrontation: Facing uncomfortable truths, contradictions, or blind spots.

* Emotional honesty: Naming grief, guilt, fear, or longing without bypassing or numbing.

* Integration: Moving from insight to change—how you act, relate, or set boundaries.

* Accountability: Owning your part in relational dynamics or patterns, without collapsing into shame or blame.

… A personal reckoning isn’t performative. It’s quiet, sobering, and often liberating. It’s the difference between knowing something and being changed by it.”

Second, in this thread, same as the one I just abandoned (“anger” with big case letters), I will be talking about my real-life experiences with the real-life people in my life. There will be no reference whatsoever, neither directly nor indirectly, to any member of the tiny buddha community (except if a member posts here, I will respond).

Third, my purpose in this thread is continued personal healing, and A Personal Reckoning is part of my healing process. It helps me to do this in a public forum (albeit a small one, as tb is indeed a small community) vs private journaling- because the idea that someone out there is reading, or caring to read feels necessary for the process.

Fourth, my purpose here is (1) to be witnessed rather than asking for interpretation, analysis and advice, (2) to make this public so that maybe witnessing my process will help someone else.

All are welcome to post here, on my thread, with your thoughts and with how my healing process resonates, or helps with yours.

Fifth: I intend to start with a summary of what I shared in the thread I just abandoned, but from there on- I have no plan. It’d be me thinking out loud, hoping that at the end of this thread, I will not be the same person that started this thread.

🌿 🤍 Anita