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January 16, 2026 at 11:10 pm #454255
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
You are doing a really good job taking care of little Anita. 🤍
Yes, an important realisation. How does it feel knowing that none of it was your fault? Has it started to sink into understanding from logic to belief or emotion yet? Whatever you are experiencing is okay. I find that these things evolve over time. 🤍
Well, the job of beagles on hunts is to go off lead and hunt rabbits. Of course bring the rabbit back. So it’s possible to train them to go off lead and recall even though they are a harder breed to train.
I wasn’t trying to suggest letting him off the lead now. Recall training starts on the lead. You pick the word you want to use. In the beginning, I usually start with just standing and waiting for some interest in me, saying the word then praising. Just pairing it. Later on you can give the lead attached to his collar a quick, firm, but gentle tug and say the word. It is like saying paying attention. Then you can just use the word without the tug. And when he recalls reliably on the regular lead some people get a very long training lead. So they can go further away and practice coming back from a larger distance safely.
Some people use treats. I don’t like to. I trained huskies before with treats and in my opinion it makes recall unreliable. It takes more time to do it without treats. I hear that beagles can be the same way. Difficult like huskies.
I read that for beagles they should practice self control exercises to help with training. Maybe co-pilot would have some suggestions?
I really like teaching another command in addition. Looking at you. This is another one you can teach on lead too or even in the house. When he looks at you naturally pair the command and praise. Once okay with recall on a lead you can practice in the house too. 😊
It makes your life a lot easier for recall if your dog is currently paying attention to you. Having them look at you makes them move a little closer to you and pay attention. It’s less threatening because they are not being told to come back on lead all the time.
Sorry for the information dump. I hope it’s helpful. 🤍 🤍 🤍
January 17, 2026 at 2:36 am #454257
TeeParticipantDear Anita,
it’s lovely to see you communicating with the little Anita with so much love and care 🤍 And also that she trusts you more and more, and is willing to accept your love and your hugs.
It seems her fear is also lessening, as you’re checking with her regularly and reassuring her of your unconditional, unwavering love 🫶 🤍
I am really happy for you, Anita 🤍 🙏
Glad to hear you bonded so well with Bogart – now it seems the goal is to make him listen to you 😊 Unfortunately I can’t give you any advice regarding dogs, but I hope Alessa and the internet will help you master this next step successfully 😊 🤞
🤍 🫶 🙏 🫶 🤍
January 17, 2026 at 8:45 am #454260
anitaParticipantDear Tee:
Thank you for your guidance and support- over time- in this process of accessing my inner child and providing her with emotional safety and validation 🙏🙏🙏
Bogart is very adorable and affectionate. I am learning 😊
I hope the new year is going well for you so far 🤞 🤞🤞
🤍 🫶 🙏 🫶 🤍 Anita
January 17, 2026 at 9:47 am #454261anitaParticipant* edit out “I am learning”
May 26, 2026 at 8:00 pm #458175anitaParticipantDear Tee:
Your very first post on tiny buddha was on Feb 18, 2021, and your most recent post was on April 18, 2026, that’s 5 years and 2 months (with the longest break by far being a 9+- month recent break) of replying to so many members over the years, taking so much of your time and attention, quoting and interpreting members’s words-
Doing your very best to promote Clarity and Agency in people’s minds and lives.
That’s admirable, Tee. THANK YOU.
As I look at the forums every day since you posted last, I think about you, hoping that you’re okay physically and emotionally.
It’s okay if you prefer to not respond to this inquiry (if at all you’re reading this).
Just wanted to let you know that I never forgot about you, not for a single day, and that I am wishing you well.
With gratitude for your years of dedication to members in these forums-
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Anita
May 29, 2026 at 9:22 am #458241anitaParticipantContinued conversations between LGA (Little Girl Anita) and AA (Adult Anita):
LGA: You hear me, do you hear me NOW???
AA: Yes, I hear how angry you are about not having been heard for such a very, very, very long time
LGA: I don’t want to be submissive anymore! I don’t want to submit to anyone’s supposed superiority and dominance so to be heard just a little bit!
AA: No more submitting, fawning, going belly up to.. anyone.
(to be continued)
May 29, 2026 at 8:51 pm #458251anitaParticipantAA speaking 🙂 tonight:
I am tired, tired oh, so tired of being afraid.
Afraid of people.
When I don’t need to be, or have to be
Giving (unknowingly) other people the kind of power over me that’s not required.
It comes from LGA feeling so powerless, so dependent, so lost, so unsure of herself..
But confidence has been growing, trust in my own perceptions and emotions has been growing.
To the point that I don’t have to desperately search for validation.
To the point that I don’t have to be so afraid, so emotionally dependent.
It’s close to 9 pm here, still light. This is what I don’t like in NW U.S.A- dark doesn’t happen in summertime before 10 pm, while it’s dark by 5 pm in wintertime.
Back to F.E.A.R- I want to release it, lessen it, not be afraid of people anymore, not when real danger is not an issue.
Anita
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