Hi Mike.. That’s a thorny one.. How ever did you manage to get steamrollered like that? It’s okay, it happens when the heart is left unchecked. To be honest it sounds like you have a tendency to drift in life. That’s okay because I do too, but not at the expense of my heart or others. I think you said it yourself – you “hang out with her out of convenience, and it’s a job”. You know, if you know you don’t love her Mike then the answer is really simple – don’t do it. Let’s be honest.. looking to your future with one eye on your health, walking into something like that (maybe because there’s nothing else?) is no way to live, and ultimately it’s not fair on anyone – you, her or the kids on either side. My advice from the choices you give? Run, and I don’t say that often.

Heya,

I find your situation a hard one. I don’t think it’s a good idea to move in with a woman you do not love. That will only end badly and especially if you have children from a different partner as they will find it confusing and need a stable loving home. I think you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. I would tell her how you feel so it’s all out in the open. It won’t be easy, but she can’t fire you because you do not love her. Be strong… do what is right for you… don’t do something because you’ll have a nicer place to sleep and a job. That’s not what happiness is… that’s just convenience. I hope you find the answer you need. X