Hello everyone.

On Christmas 2018, I broke up with my bf of 1 year. It was our anniversary as well, hurt like hell. I’m 24 and he is 26.The reason I decided to end it, was because he flat out denied any future with me. I told him, truthfully and calmly that, in 2 to 3 years I would be considering to start a family and get married. Granted that we are in love and have steady jobs. He instantly transformed into another person. Cold, cynical and cruel, even when I was caressing his hand he would look away and not touch me. He said that we would break up eventually because all relationships end, that I would be a great mother and wife for another man, that he didn’t see me as the one and that he would be ready in 6 to 8 years if ever. He continued to be cruel and unloving even thought I bursted into tears and run to the toilets. He mocked me abou that. He said that I should be with him up until I would want a family and he wouldn’t. Then we would break up.

The day after that we continued to talk through viber. He insisted on his views. My family, friends, even acquaintances told me to break up. The thing I knew myself would be the best. So  I called him  to give him one last chance, he yelled and screamed at me and hung up the phone saying he has other business to do and that he doesn’t have time for me. I called him again and said we’re over.

Long story short he contacted me twice after that, through viber. He said he loved me. We said the same things and officially stop contacted on Christmas day. All throughout our relationship he would only meet me twice a week, on specific hours  Sunday mornings he would put an alarm for no reason other than me leaving his place early. He would never take md home with his car, even though he knew I had to take 3 busses and walk a great deal. He didn’t want me to meet his sister, nor did he ever take me to a party, saying there would only be boys there and I would be bored. He always was airing the bed sheets when I was there, was texting supposedly with his sister on ALL social platforms. He never showed me one picture of his outings or with his friends. Needless to say he was not posting any thing about us on social media, and his status was single. He also made it so that on my fb feed his like would not show up, only when I was searching “photos liked by…” I would find likes on girls photos ONLY. Never on a guy. He never gave me a flower, even though he knew I loved them. He never called me on his own, and for 40 days during the summer that we were away we had only one video call because I begged to see him. He said he has my selfies and doesn’t feel the need to see me. We had a fight once because I was fired of missing him and wanted to see him more during the week. He denied me more time and said that I should find someone better, because He was always working long hours and had basketball 4 times a week. He never surprised me with anything, a date, a walk, my favorite coffee, I mean small things,. Lastly, when I was very ill and at his place, he told me a flat out lie to avoid bringing me home with the car.

Was I wrong to end it? I think I wasn’t but truth is I miss him. And I cry… A lot.