Dear cali sister:

The first step to take, always, when figuring what to do to improve your life is to relax best you can. Even if only for a  short moment. After all, you already have  the experience of being calm, sometimes. Catch a moment of calm and take advantage of it. Then make one action step, a phone  call to a career  coach perhaps. Then go about living, later  to relax best you can and see the coach.  If  anxious during  the appointment, maybe you can record the appointment for later viewing, when calm.

A bit at a time, calm-> small action, break, calm-> next action, congratulate yourself  for action  taken, give yourself  time.

anita

Dear cali sister:

I don’t understand “I struggle with the  pressure of always knowing“?

You mentioned a break, reads good to me, taking  time out for yourself, a vacation of sorts, alone in a  small village in another country… away from your life as-is.

anita

Dear cali sister:

It is probably  not sustainable financially and  in any other way for you to keep this “go go go. stress. anxiety.  go go go.”

How about a walk in nature, once a day, or so. Taking  time out.

anita

Dear cali sister:

“Well you won’t get it anyway”- the origin of this thought?

Did your mother say something like that to you, not necessarily in regard to reading?

anita

Dear cali sister:

Your mother exists in your  brain as a combination of  many neuropathways. This combination functions as a … mental representative of  your mother. In her absence, it  terrorizes you just as she  has done. Maybe  even more so because it  has  your eyes to see all that is happening in your day, and that is  a lot of  material to put you down for.

Repeatedly  terrorized  by your mother’s mental rep, your anxiety, the blur is maintained.

This is  not necessarily a life sentence. What  do you think?

anita

Dear cali sister:

You go about it by the very slow process of interrupting those  neuropathways by inserting realistic, truthful thoughts  into  it and  by relaxing, over time, into a greater  awareness of  the experience of your childhood.

Such is best done in  quality psychotherapy and may not be  possible otherwise.

There is no quick way, no short cuts. Unfortunately.

anita

Dear cali sister:

It is important, crucial for the process, to choose the right psychotherapist, to go about it purposefully, with objectives stated early. It is amazing what progress you can  achieve in a few  months, with the right help and with ongoing work, persistence and  patience. Once on your way, in   this process, you will be  able to  continue the work without a therapist’s further help, or  while  seeing the therapist less frequently.

Post again anytime.

anita

Dear cali sister:

I don’t understand: “what’s the point if I know the solution”?

anita