July 9, 2019 at 11:15 am #302611
I agree: “Sometimes it’s really hard to connect. Or you just can’t”-
– I tried to connect with you, gave it my time and effort, but it is not happening. I am working too hard trying and I am getting too little effort back from you. Better I withdraw from your thread. I wish you the best.
July 9, 2019 at 1:58 pm #302641
- This reply was modified 6 days, 20 hours ago by anita.
Just touching base – I need a little time to absorb what’s been said and a few hours sleep – very tired. I’ll come back to you when I am refreshed.
Thank you for answering my question.
PeggyJuly 9, 2019 at 10:41 pm #302677
At the moment, I want to keep this short as I need to go through all that’s been said and that’s a lot.
Love: Love is love regardless of what box you put it in. Romantic love is just as valid as any other kind. Selfless love is such a rarity that it is almost non-existent. We all want our needs met – we all want a loving, supportive network. Lessons in love are what we are put on Earth for. Self love is crucial.
Self love is crucial. Our essential character is defined at birth. Who are you? Who are you when you are not the sickly child who nearly died in infancy? Who are you when you are not the child who was brought up by his grandmother and received the nurture that he needed? Who are you when you are not sabotaging your passions? Who are you when you are not being rejected for your sexuality? Who are you at your core when you strip away all your life’s experiences? Who are you?
I’ll post again in about 12 hours time – thank you for giving me this opportunity.
Sending you healing light and love.
PeggyJuly 10, 2019 at 12:19 am #302687
When I said I’ll post again in 12 hours time I meant 24 hours. It slipped my mind that I’ve agreed to attend a session on ‘Mindfulness’ with my daughter later today.
Have a good one!
PeggyJuly 10, 2019 at 3:32 am #302705
Peggy, selfless love is what I aspire to see one day in me.
Now, with also all of this, there’s only selfish love, and it’s kind of twisted.
Bringing up a person to the table in order to have only my needs met or my needs met it’s not that fair. It’s natural and certainly a wonderful feeling, but I have to love myself first.
And that’s the trashy partJuly 10, 2019 at 5:28 am #302715
Loving yourself isn’t the trashy part – not loving yourself is the trashy part. What you are doing to yourself and your body is not love – it is abuse. You may have misunderstood what I said. Bringing someone to the table is benefiting two people and surely that imaginary other person is entitled to have a say in whether or not he wants to take your needs on board. Is that all part of your control strategy – if I keep everyone away because I am too needy/selfish/what? my personal life will never improve.
Who are you?
I was just checking through your first post and found this: “I do feel great and I want to keep the fat and the weight off”. Are you still at that point?
As I said from the outset, I am not trained in eating disorders but I do know that it would be extremely irresponsible of me if I was to collude with you on this.