November 19, 2020 at 11:53 am #369607
“Maybe that’s why she is so romantic, so intense at the beginning of relationships because she craves love”- yes, it makes sense, like a starving person binging on a lot of food in one night, not knowing when she will get to eat next.. she condenses the feeling of love into one romantic event, knowing too well that that feeling will be gone too soon.
“I don’t think she will get (love) from her family, maybe from another woman”- you truly love her and you have truly loved her for some time, but she can’t receive your love because of the barrier you mentioned, a barrier between your love and her heart.
Another woman, other than you- I doubt another woman will love her more than you love her, and even if one did, L’s barrier will not let that love in either.
In another woman maybe she will prefer a different look, a different style and lifestyle- but without love reaching her heart, the relationship will be empty of its most important and essential ingredient.
“I know that if it’s another woman, if I am not over her, I don’t know how I will feel and deal with the situation”- if she is in a relationship with another woman, you may choose to not deal with the situation at all, by not being in it- by having no contact with L.
If L is with another woman.. you don’t owe her your love or loyalty. In that situation, you can attend to what you need, where you can get it. You don’t want to chase L for love, similar to how she is chasing it unsuccessfully.
anitaNovember 19, 2020 at 12:46 pm #369611
Maybe thats why she us like that when romantic. Yes I do truly love her. But how does she deal with that barrier with my love and her heart. If only she just dropped tgst barrier it’s would be so easy.
Yeah I think that will be a tell tail sign when that happens. I want her in my life but it’s if I can cooe with that situation or not. I hope tgst situation doesn’t arise for a while. I don’t want to chase L for love. Because if there is love there it’s in her side of the court. But on other hand maybe that’s why I think the worst and start to overthink because I am waiting for that to happen. For her to be successful in love she needs to open her heart trust the people that are loyal and let these barriers down and fight them not run awsy in a sense
KarenNovember 19, 2020 at 1:28 pm #369615
I think that you do truly love her. She is fortunate, only she doesn’t take in the fortune that is there for her. If only she dropped the barrier- it would be so easy. But fear is holding that barrier in place, and fear is more powerful than any other emotion. It is very difficult to.. drop fear, to make it go away.
To open her heart, her fear needs to lessen, and it takes the process of healing, as in attending quality psychotherapy, to make that happen.. over a long period of time. It takes a combination of quality psychotherapy and a relationship with a loving, trustworthy person such as yourself.
anitaNovember 19, 2020 at 1:37 pm #369617
Yeah she doesn’t see it. Only person I suppose that can do these changes is L. I hood she does look into that help to understand her barriers and fear. I feel that with all tge changes in her life just now I don’t think tgat will happen. All I can do is be there I suppose which is hard but I can turn my back. But when another woman comes along it won’t be my job. For all I know she also could be talking to another woman. I really don’t thi nk she is but thats my overthinking. I just need to try stay positive and when she leaves try and keep myself busy. Because I am going to find it hard her not being around.
KarenNovember 19, 2020 at 1:38 pm #369619
I meant can’t turn my backNovember 19, 2020 at 1:50 pm #369621
Given my life experience, I feel that I can detect true love when I see it, and I see it in you, truly loving L. I hope you can rest in the knowing that you truly love her. You are capable of true love and that is rare. Even when your love is not reciprocated, love is still there in you, in your heart.
“when another woman comes along, it won’t be my job”- glad to read it. Loving her does not have to mean being foolish. It is okay to love someone and be wise at the same time. If you find out that L is with another woman, in another woman’s bed- game is over, I hope. At least as far as what you will be willing to do for her.
anitaNovember 19, 2020 at 1:59 pm #369622
Yeah I do truly love L. Yeah till that time I have to go with the flo. Then when that time ccomes I will do what needs to ge done. For all I know i might find it difficult before then. I need to be aware of how I feel myself and how it affects me
KarenNovember 19, 2020 at 2:09 pm #369624
As time goes on and you feel it being difficult, you can post here anytime and I will attentively read and reply to you every time. In this way, you are not alone with the difficulty to come.
anitaNovember 19, 2020 at 2:40 pm #369626
Thank you. Maybe once she leaves I will post as I see it being difficult. Thank you for replying to my long posts as you have helped me alot
KarenNovember 19, 2020 at 2:45 pm #369627
You are welcome. I appreciate our communication as well. You can post here any time, any day, whenever you want to. It helps me too, to read from you and reply.
anitaNovember 19, 2020 at 10:30 pm #369644
Thank you I will post on here so glad I found this site
KarenNovember 20, 2020 at 10:34 am #369656
You are welcome, Karen. Anytime.