April 29, 2021 at 7:42 am #378905NaeParticipant
How do you deal with being betrayed and lied to in a relationship. I really tucked my heart away so I didn’t feel all the things I feel now. I fell deep in love with a man that pursued me for over 4 years. He turned out to be the worst man I have ever come across. He broke my heart and it weird because I still love him. I broke off the relationship but I just miss him and I wanna call him everyday but… I don’t know what to do. I can’t speak to family or friends because they all literally hate him so maybe you guys can help, hopefully.April 29, 2021 at 8:06 am #378914anitaParticipant
You fell deeply in love with a man, and then he lied to you and betrayed you. You broke up with him, but you still miss him, and feel love for him. You asked how to deal with being betrayed and lied to in a relationship-
– You broke up with him but you also “wanna call him everyday… don’t know what to do”, meaning that you are considering getting back together with him in some form or another. This means that his lies and betrayal were not yet a deal breaker for you, not as far as your heart is concerned.
You told your family and friends about his lies betrayal, and as a result, “they all literally hate him”, and you have no one to talk to about it all. You are welcome to talk about what happened right here, and I will read and reply.
anitaApril 30, 2021 at 6:43 am #378968Anagha SondeParticipant
Hi Anita – May I reply to this post?
I was exactly in your situation a few years back. I was in relationship with this man for 4 years. He forced me for sex and abused me. Moreover he went abroad and betrayed me and lied to me. That was still not enough for me to hate him. There were many times when I wanted to break the relationship myself but he kept emotionally blackmailing me and got me back to be his girlfriend. Finally when he went abroad he found someone there and broke up with me. I could not come to terms with it. However bad he was to me, my woman’s heart still felt like and still feels like wanting to talk to him. But then what will I talk to him after all these years. What explanation will he give? I am sure whatever he says, I will have a counter argument and the conversation will never end. It will only make me cry and want him back. So it is best to view this way. Start loving yourself. This is the time that God has made you realise that you should be there for yourself. Apply makeup. Dress beautiful. Cook. Start journaling. Write all your questions in the journal and answers too. You will become stronger. Start improving the lives of people around you. Get active in social media. Get admitted to some groups where you can contribute. You should be the center of your life now. He was just a karmic debt that had to be finished. You should not swallow your spit. He is gone and good riddance. There will always be people who are better than him. Who can love you more than him. And one such person is you. Pamper yourself. Fall in love with God. Hear and heed to God’s voice in your head. You will definitely see that things will fall into place. You can always express your feelings here. Anita really helped me get over my depression.April 30, 2021 at 8:00 am #378974anitaParticipant
* Dear Anagha Sonde: of course you can reply here (and anywhere), I am glad that you did. I think that your reply is excellent and I hope that Nae will read it and benefit from it.
anitaMay 4, 2021 at 6:43 am #379163blueParticipant
Hi I am 38, I just had sex for the first time and I broke up; I worried about virginity, will any prejudice from my later boyfriend if they know i have lost my virginity? Thanks for your advice