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October 16, 2023 at 1:18 am #423156
Thanks a lot for your very efective suggestion, I will start on that, thank you for reminding me.
Hope you health and success too.
BlueOctober 16, 2023 at 1:15 am #423155
YOu are such a very attentive person and have a very good memory. Yes, after 2 years, I have recovered from my drama. I have discovered I am too old to be prenant, that guy still in date with me, and we keep our relationship in secret in hop that a few year later my parents will accept our relationship.
I feel so ahsamed at this age(40) I still struggle with so many problem to find things that people at my age already have; but that’s the reason I find to you and Tiny Buddha.
After the storm from love drama, I now face with my long lasting problem with jobs, as I am not be pleased by my boss though I am a very effective and clever staff. In other words, she is not happy with my talents and put me in boring research position while my major in import-export. SO I have a lot of free time for many years.
To tell the truth, age is a problem that hinders me from living to what I like, to get our of the safe zone; and my parents are too old for me to go away from them to follow my dream; SO I choose to accept and try to adjust myself to fit the environment. I try many ways relating to religion: practice repent, recite mantra, become vegetarian, do charity… for the recent year, I have practice meditation; whith I learn on you tube. Right now i do have a lot of freetime and would like to come here again to see if there is any group or person to join in sharing about meditation or personal development method, as I think this is a very healthy and helpful place, espcially there is you, thank you :))
Sorry while writing this i feel my issue so small to other major problem out there like Israel- Palestine war. I think while writing out these words I have some answer to my problem
Have a good day!
BlueJuly 7, 2021 at 11:56 pm #382636
All is the same but much better as I come to accept the truth, I practice yoga and meditation to be calm again and I begin to be more acceptive to what happened to me.
Now I dont think much, I just live and try to practice gratitude for what life bring to me.
Thanks for your attention.
BlueJune 1, 2021 at 2:04 am #380792
I appreciate your time and eattention in the long detailed comment s for me. I feel the kindness in it. Thank you.
Yes, your opinion brightens me some point in my thinking. I am a woman, I am somewhat afraid of marrying a poor guy. But he care for me. During my last 38 years, no guys care for me. I google some cases which woman marrying poor husband, most sais it is not advisable. But in my case as a 38 years old, I am running out of time on fertility, and this single guy is my only choice at this time, I am considering. I will take your comments into consideration while waiting for my parents to change their mind or while waiting for things to work it our. Thanks again.June 1, 2021 at 1:58 am #380791
Yes, you are right, I consider my life belong to my parents. Though I am 38, I cannot make my own decision as I worry my parents are sad about me. Anyway they just care for me, they are afraid I would suffer poverty when I marry that guy. Now my only solution is just to let time heal and wait to see if my parents change their mind.
Thanks a lot AnitaMay 25, 2021 at 12:57 am #380386
He was so poor that my parents prevent me from marrying him. They worry I will lead the rest of my life in poverty. So they think I am better off staying single.
BlueMay 24, 2021 at 2:32 am #380342
I am in the same boat with you 38 and I also wanna kid. The rush pushed me into many drama I am experiencing now, which is unpleasant to endure, it is painful, ashamed, even guilty. Take your time. I have an aunt who got marriage and gave born to a very cute daughter at the age of 44. Take your time.May 20, 2021 at 6:23 pm #380139
After a while of balancing a little bit, I think partly it is my not correct thinking more than social norm; I cannot forgive myself after the drama. At this age of 38, I think I should practice more acceptance and gratitude. After the event, I learnt a lot from that. After all, I think it is not completely a bad luck. I think I will recover ok. Thanks a lot to Tinybuddha and you Anita.May 19, 2021 at 2:01 am #380074
Thanks a lot, you are so kind and helpful. Luckily found this forum.
LoveMay 17, 2021 at 8:25 pm #380018
I think half a month since your post so I hope you are better with the break up. I am undergoing through break-up like you but hurt by physically. Before I also underwent spiritual hurt by breakup; it is all about thought; after 10 years looking back i feel it is silly of me; now i exerience physical hurt, i think spiritual hurt is not as painful. But with time, I think we will be ok. The best way for you and me now is to find something healthy to keep us busy not to vae time to think about break up
LoveMay 17, 2021 at 6:24 pm #380013
Yeah I know, hic, it is a concern to me. But I am not sure I will meet any single man later at my age :((
Thanks a lot for your adviceMay 17, 2021 at 6:20 pm #380012
I read with thanks. Thanks again, your consultation is of great help to me at this time.May 17, 2021 at 1:33 pm #380006
I had been dating before, but i had been taught to keep the limit and i kept it to 38 years old. Recently at the age of 38 i am afraid it is too late to have normal healthy baby; for the sake of the future baby, i should try to overcome the social rule to have sex before marriage. I thought the guy is sure to be my husband,as i have been looking for a single guy for too long (at my age there are hardly anyone). At that time i just think of that. And i want to be a mother so much, i even think single mom is ok. I admire those who chose to be single mom. They dare to live their life. We planned about wedding ceremony when the break up happened, which made me shocked and did not know what to do next. I know at this age i should be responsible for my life, but i feel not ok. I am afraid social norm will not accept my immature thought and deed. i still feel ashamed and guilt, as i could not controlled myself well at that time to let that happened. I know i cannot turn back the time but i am quite not confident as previous to begin any new relationshipMay 16, 2021 at 9:02 pm #379951
Thanks a lot for your useful material. I will work on it. I hope with time I will have enough capability to transform the bad emotions into positive ones. Thanks again for your kindness. You are really helpfulMay 16, 2021 at 8:45 pm #379950
I was touched by your attentive consultation. To tell the truth it is ok a little bit after your consultation, but I am still in a feeling of guilt.I blame myself why at this mature age I let that shameful thing happened…hic. I am quite conservative, and I approve of those who dare to live, but when it my turn, I am so weak… Now i just hope time will heal, and I will try to read more constructive stuffs to help me
Thanks again Anita