You have to banish the “What If?” thoughts and replace them “with Because I Said So, That’s Why”.

You are a sovereign, divine being in a Universe filled with Good Choices. We only live in The Moment, and your decisions were the best ones at the time. Believe it!

So, when eating out, after you order the ham and cheese and are regretful that you didn’t order then Cobb Salad, say, “The ham and cheese, too, is perfect. I’m eating it with joy because I said so, that’s why.”

See everything as one big Perfection. Including your decisions.

Things turn out one way or another.

All is well.

Hello Little Buddha,

I believe your current issue stems from lack of trust. It seems like you don’t, or at least find it hard, trusting yourself. I deal with the same issue at times but in a different light(more self doubt than regret) which is the same thing in general but the main point is that we’re human; we’re all works in progress. It’s important for us to find the root what we’re feeling, in this case, regret. Why do you feel regret when you take off work? Ask why to every answer until you come to the root of the emotion you’re experiencing and start correcting it from there.

You ask “How come I can’t be happy with the decisions I make?” I say, you CAN be happy but you choose not to. You choose to be the victim with self pity over being the student to life while embracing all that comes with love. No one is perfect, this happens to us all at some point of our lives. Understand that there is a positive in every negative, a lesson in every mistake, it’s one of the universal laws and it’s just ‘the way’ as some would say. One thing that I’d recommend you to do is a simple change in your perspective. The degree of our happiness should not be made up from our circumstances in the world, but in the lens in which we see which forms our reality. All you need to do is start looking for the positive in every situation. It might be hard when you first look, but the more you do it, the more naturally it will become. The same way you walk without even noticing sometimes, we all had to LEARN how to walk. You can do it, I believe in you!

Best of luck to you brother, Namaste.

I’m not exactly sure what you did to “so many people” but I believe you’re over thinking it. I recommend the best thing for you to do is contact all of the people that you’ve ‘done wrong’ and communicate with each and every one of them. It is so under rated for us to simply talk it out with others nowadays and it’s a big shame. Talk to them and tell them how you feel about the situation. Ask any questions that you need answers to, so you can finally rest your mind. If you keep it in your head you will continue to over think which is not going to help. Nevertheless, if it’s necessary just ask for a genuine apology and mean it! Whether they do or don’t is up to them, but that is all you can do. Forgive yourself for the mistake and move on with your life.

You say you have many questions that whirl in your mind, write them down! Look up on Google “GTD”. It is a program to be more productive and way more organized with your thoughts/plans. It’s a really good destressor because when you jot down the things you want to do, it clears your mind and the extra energy can be used to focus on things you really want to do(goals, ambitions, development, etc).

It’s great that you’re humble enough to accept how some other guy might just be better for your ex. You can’t force anything in this world, as it will make things go sour. Let her go on her own path but more importantly, give yourself permission to continue living your life too. I’ve been single for over 5 years and I’m extremely happy with the person I’ve become because of the continuous positive recurrence in my daily life. I surround myself with positive music, positive activities that I LOVE doing, and only feed positive text into my brain. TURN OFF the television. I wish you can do the same, even if it’s temporary, so you can see the amazing things that happen when you fill your life with positive energy.