Dear Lisa:

My answer: if a man sees women as sexual objects (referring to women as “females” often indicates this view, as well as referring to women in more derogatory terms like b*&*)- then he wouldn’t be intimidated that his brother slept with the same woman.

Lots of men view women as sexual objects and lots of women go along with this view, accommodating it- referring to other women as “females” (or more derogatory terms), engaging in sexual relationships with those men who treat them as sexual objects (sometimes acting nice to their.. sexual  objects, it is part of the deal).

Traditionally it is men who view women as sexual objects- that is the basis of the pornography industry. It is not a good feeling for a woman to be viewed this way, as a body meant for a man to use so to satisfy himself, then moving on to.. another female. Not a good feeling, I don’t think.

anita

Dear Lisa:

What I was saying is that if a man sees a woman as a sexual object than he may be okay with his brother having had sex with her at an earlier time. But after reading your recent post, I may be wrong, so I will restate:

If a man sees a woman as a sexual object, as sort of a sexual toy, if he is okay with sharing his toys, then he may not be bothered, but if he doesn’t like to share his toys, then he may be bothered.

anita

Dear Lisa:

The two brothers are not good with each other then, giving each other a hard time, regardless of the woman- did I understand correctly?

anita

Dear Lisa:

“This female he was with”- it offends me to read about a woman being referred to as a “female”.

I tried to communicate with you on a few of your threads but either you don’t understand me or I don’t understand you (I am at a loss at this point regarding the content of this thread and what it is that you are asking in this thread).

Therefore I am withdrawing from this and future threads you may start,  and I hope you have a meeting of the minds/ an understanding with other members.

anita

Hi Lisa,

Very confusing to know which brother you are referring to.  Brother no. 1 was having an affair.  Brother no. 1. fell out with this woman.  Brother no. 2 took up with said woman.  Is Brother no. 1 capable of jealousy – YES!  Is Brother no. 2 capable of jealousy – YES.  Is the woman in question capable of winding the situation up by asking about said other brother – YES.

If this woman is sleeping with boyfriend’s brother, it is to get back at boyfriend no. 1.  I’m suggesting that’s why they fell out in the first place and I am suggesting that the resentment is still in existence.

I would not tolerate my ‘boyfriend’ introducing me in such an appalling way – how can it do anything other than humiliate the woman in question.  Why exactly is he with her?  Does he see her as a trophy?  Why is she with him?

Bad News every step of the way!

Peggy