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  • December 20, 2016 at 4:32 am #123080
    Jaydee
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    I have a close friend who I used to hang out with: playing basketball, drink beer after work on Friday night, etc. The problem is that eversince he get into relationship, it has become impossible for him to spend time with me. I have tried to talk about it to him but it looks like he’s not seeing the problem. He doesn’t have time with our friendship. With me. His world is now with his partner. I feel being dumped. Just like that. He just remembers me when he needs someone to talk to if he and his partner are having problems. If they are good again and happy, I’m non-existent. I feel like I already lost my old friend. By the way, I am happily married and have a kid but I can find time to hang out with him if I want to. I am hurt.

    December 20, 2016 at 5:15 am #123081
    Inky
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    Hi jaydee,

    Perhaps it’s time to change the dynamic of your friendship. You’re defining it as: Friendship = basketball/beer/alone time with friend. Why don’t you and your wife invite them over for dinner? Throw a Super Bowl party and invite them? Have your wife become friends with his girlfriend? They can go out while you watch your kid and have the game on TV. Or vice versa. I wouldn’t take it personally. That’s life!

    Best,

    Inky

    December 20, 2016 at 10:06 am #123104
    Anonymous
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    Dear jaydee:

    My short answer to the question: “Crappy friend. Should I let him go?” is Yes. If it is a crappy friend, then let him go.

    anita

    December 22, 2016 at 3:55 am #123275
    Maya
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    If the foundation of your friendship is strong then talk to him that you feel neglected.
    still if u get no good response then time to move on.

    its not worth to get hurt time and again for the person who doesn’t care for u.
    but if you love him unconditionally then accept him but stop judging.
    at the same time take care of yourself too:)
    because everything needs nurturing(includes you )

    December 26, 2016 at 4:26 pm #123631
    Jaydee
    Participant

    Thank you all for the input. We had a catch up and talked about our friendship. I think I’m giving it another chance for now. I’ll take into consideration the “changing the dynamic of my friendship.” By the way, our friendship is not just drinking beer and basketball. We have certain bond together that is hard for me to just throw off. I will remember that “nurturing” too. Thanks for that.

    December 26, 2016 at 4:31 pm #123632
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, jaydee.
    anita

    December 27, 2016 at 12:48 am #123657
    Maya
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    Yay !! im really HAPPY for u 🙂

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