Dating with an STI- emotional roller coaster

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August 5, 2017 at 4:38 am #162266

Anonymous
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Dear Heartbrokengurl:

The sad face at the end of your very short post above looks waiting to me, sadly waiting.

anita

August 7, 2017 at 8:31 am #162678

Amber
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Heartbrokengurl:

Did he eve respond to your last text?

August 7, 2017 at 12:25 pm #162720

Anonymous
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He did and we’re getting together tonight so I’ll get a better vibe in person where his head is at hopefully!

August 8, 2017 at 10:21 am #162868

Anonymous
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Hi ladies, just wanted to give you a quick update. Last night when really well. Although I didn’t express completely how I was feeling (as I didn’t know if it was appropriate given that it was only a week since he needed to sort things out within himself, and we aren’t officially ‘bf/gf’ yet), we had a good talk. He did apologize for not texting as much, said that he was just really busy with work. He expressed how much he liked me, and I said to him ‘do you? This week it kind of seemed like you weren’t interested’. He told me again that he’s not seeing anyone else or reaching out to anyone else. He said he would text me more, and also asked to see me tomorrow, and have a proper date on Saturday.

I’m really excited about him again, and hope that going forward I can learn to push my anxiety away and trust that he wants to be with me and just go with it. I am scared to fall for him and to get hurt, but here’s hoping things will continue to go well! Thanks for all of your support!

August 8, 2017 at 10:45 am #162872

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Dear Heartbrokengurl:

I appreciate your update (was hoping for one following your post before last).

Clearly he is interested in you- I cannot imagine why he would see you at all, given his busy and demanding work schedule, if he wasn’t interested.

You wrote that you hope to push your anxiety away. When you feel it, the anxiety, try to let it be, not to run away or push it away. Let it be, pay attention, if you find yourself overthinking, relax, look around you, listen to sounds, and let it leave you by itself. Then, when you feel it again, repeat.

anita

August 9, 2017 at 9:55 am #163048

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Heartbrokengurl:

So happy to hear that! I really hope that’s all he needed was some space and you guys continue. Keep us posted

August 11, 2017 at 6:17 am #163418

Katie
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Aww, good! Slow and steady 🙂 You will be ok regardless of how things go with him, remember that!

August 11, 2017 at 12:09 pm #163506

serenity
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dear heartbrokengurl:

i love your story i had a friend with the same thing they had the same problem with their partner, she came to me im going to tell you the same thing i told her, “if he truly loves and cares for you nothing you say/do/have will affect his love for you.” i understand your fear for what he will say as his response but fear is something the mind produces as a defense. tell me more i really want to know more about your situation.

love,

serenity

August 15, 2017 at 8:56 am #164036

Anonymous
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Thanks Serenity! That ‘issue’ has thankfully been resolved and I don’t think he has an issue with it anymore 🙂

Things are going so great, but I’m finding myself getting so insecure feeling as though he’s too good for me, and he’s out of my league. He’s expressed how much he likes me, I just wish I could be ok with it. I feel great when I’m with him, but when we are apart I feel my anxiety and insecurities building up. If I don’t get a morning text from him I think the worst, as if he’s already lost interest.

Hopefully over time and the longer we are together, that will fade!

August 15, 2017 at 3:35 pm #164138

Darshan Simon
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Dear Heartbrokengurl,

I was diagnosed with HSV 2 a couple of years ago. At the time I was involved with someone who I thought I loved, and that situation had complexities of it’s own. I was officially diagnosed with HSV type 2 after we had been intimate a handful of times. I was terrified by the diagnosis, and crushed when she decided that it meant we could not be together again. I suffered with depression and anxiety before this diagnosis. After the diagnosis, I wanted to die. I also have psoriasis, and between the two I can convince myself that I am absolutely not worthy of love.

I don’t have a point necessarily, except that you are still worthy of love. Don’t let the story in your head bring you down. Know in your heart that if he is the right person, he will overlook the diagnosis. If he isn’t, he won’t. To the right person, it won’t matter.
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