im 13 ive been through hell and back but im still standing strong
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August 11, 2017 at 2:00 pm #163534
wow by the way you reply i thought you would be in your twenties. well your very engaged and aware of stuff, your constanly commenting on stuff and you give great advise.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 1:56 pm #163530
what ive learned is that guys tend not to share emotions that well cause guys aren't supposed to be “vulnerable” i think guys should share emotions but they have a hard time doing that. you seem like a sweet person, but reading your story it just seemed as though you wanted him to confide in you but if guys think that you constantly want to know how they feel and you pressure them they tend to become self involved.
you said ” He thinks sex is not important in a relationship and I do. It’s not because he’s not physically attracted to me either, he’s just really inside his head about it all and doesn’t seem comfortable with sexual things or with his body.”, can you explain a little more cause im very confused.
let me ask you something. you seem as though you want a committed relationship where the guy is all in, i respect that i would too. it seem that he doesn't want to put effort in and you said that he told you that he wants you back, you also said y'all were off and on after the second chance you needed to let him go its his fault for you not wanting that relationship, don't put yourself in a relationship were the guy doesn't want to put the effort in but he wants to stay. if you truly want this guy set ground rules tell him the rules if he doesn't like them then forget him. if a guy truly wanted you he would put an effort in. if he does say that he can follow those rules do a test on him but don't tell him. give him 90 days a guy cant pretend for that long so that's what you do if he falls short more than twice than it should be over. during the test he goes by your rules and only yours.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 1:07 pm #163526
I have been in the same place i’ve gone to that dark place. i still struggle with it its hard to conrol my anger at times but what i do when im mad is i go to a quiet place and i write what happened then go over it in my head. i also meditate so i become calm. your not weak and dont hate your self because that will just make it worse on yourself. dont always think about sad stuff or stuff that will cause your anger focus on happiness.
i send my love
</div>August 11, 2017 at 1:02 pm #163522
oh my god that made my day i cant thank you enough. ive read all of your other replies to others and your constantly helping and giving advise thats a true hero and role model. your amazing ❤❤
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 12:27 pm #163510
if i take everything personal than i would be a wreck everybody has opinion about stuff and personally i think that every opinion has a reason behind it. some people just believe stuff because of how they were raised as a kid. i know in my heart what i believe and im not going to change how i feel.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 12:16 pm #163508
your very welcome. im very excited about being home-schooled!
yes ive excepted my flaws for all the good reasons. thanks for your comment about me being nice!
how old are you and what do you like to do for fun?
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 12:09 pm #163506
i love your story i had a friend with the same thing they had the same problem with their partner, she came to me im going to tell you the same thing i told her, “if he truly loves and cares for you nothing you say/do/have will affect his love for you.” i understand your fear for what he will say as his response but fear is something the mind produces as a defense. tell me more i really want to know more about your situation.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 11:55 am #163496
yes i do find reasons and motivation for behavior. its just i dont care what people think of my sexuality because its me and not them, if the disagree then i just like to hear what their opinion. most people who talk about lbgt people really dont understand it so if they disagree the i want to know reasons why.your a great person anita.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 11:50 am #163490
what do you do for work, just curious?
yes you did get the explanation correct and thanks for explaning it a little better. if you dont mind how old are you?
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 11:45 am #163484
thank you i do see myself more mature than most kids my age because what ive been through has showed me a better life and i know right from wrong. after last year i had enough of the bullying this year im getting home-schooled. yes there is support groups here.
serenityAugust 11, 2017 at 11:38 am #163482
yes i did feel comfort for a while i thought it was just normal but it wasn't. i changed the over all appearance of myself in multiple ways it was hard to over come it. the origin of my self-hate was the abuse and always getting bullied everybody would point out my flaws the all i could think about what they said was wrong with me. i feel free now because i learned to love my flaws and everything. i want to thank you i know i don't personally know you but your very nice.
serenityAugust 9, 2017 at 12:38 pm #163142
there is no great way to deal with emotions. can you explain whats going on so i can help you out cause if there are certain things happening i can give better advice on it. i also wounder how old you are if you dont mind telling. you seem like a very smart girl i can help but im going to need the bigger picture.
serenityAugust 9, 2017 at 11:10 am #163102
my biological dad is an alcoholic and an abusive person who likes to controlAugust 9, 2017 at 11:07 am #163100
i just did and i would love for you to read it that would mean a lot to me.
serenityAugust 9, 2017 at 10:45 am #163086
All of that is very true i respect what you say. Honestly i was brought up with an abusive father who tured my the older siblings into what is is i was the only one not to become what he did. i really need someone to be there for me because ive been alone taking care of all of my problems myself. i hate myself and i feel weak everyday i dont like to get out of my bed cause i feel that i only have negativity in my life.
love and happiness,