Hello VK,

I am happy that you looked past the fact that this was your “first love” and made the decision to remove yourself from that situation 🙂
I too was also in a very similar relationship (both aggressive and controlling) until I realized that this relationship was no good for me. He had the choice to change for the better and time and time again he chose not to, so we parted ways. Almost 2 years later I can say that was the best decision I’ve ever made for myself. Was it hard? Yes! 5 years of my life had been invested into someone whom I had also shared very beautiful moments with but at the same time the bad outweighed the good. Was I sad? Absolutely, but this pushed me to find myself and most of all LOVE myself. When you reach that point you realize you don’t need to depend on someone else to give you love when its right inside of you. I took that time to explore who I am and found peace, forgiveness and self love. I was bitter when we first broke up, I was upset that I had “wasted” 5 yrs of my life but during my “ME” time I was able to look past the negative parts of our relationship and see that yes there were good moments between us yes I learned so much but we just weren’t compatible and that’s okay! Just because we love someone doesn’t mean they’re going to be in our life forever. Maybe they walked into to your life at that time for you to learn something from them or even about yourself. You may not even realize it until they are gone but they were there for a reason.
So in all of this, Yes I am happy that my first love was just that because of what I gained after that, a new found love for myself and life itself. My outlook on everything is so much more positive because I don’t have an extremely negative person influencing my life.
When you truly find peace within and love for yourself things begin to fall into place and when you forgive him you will also free yourself from the past<<< that is one of the best feelings I’ve ever experienced.
Best of luck to you on your journey, it will be bumpy at times but ALWAYS beautiful and rewarding.

Sending Love and Light your way,
Elly

Hi VK!

I had maybe a little the same situation with you. It was a very big love, I thought it was love of my whole life because it was first. And first time I felt like I was totally happy.
But he had some problems with aggression and jealousy. It’s lasted several years. Very painful break up.

That time I thought I’ll remember him 4rever and truly yes I remember him still but only like experience that gave me a lot.. wisdom actually the main. Now you should definitely know what you deserve, what you could put up with.

I’m happy that I had this relationship and this person in my life even that we don’t communicate with each other.

But suprisingly very soon I met person who was like a miracle that got me from my terrible life (he was like a very good friend first time). I became another person and I falled in love till nowadays, it’s more than 2 years.But it’s another love, another feeling more mature.

So the answer on your questions is yes. I’m happy that it was like this though I was like you confused about these questions.

I think if it’s yours it will be so. Don’t worry that you’ll live with this pain 4ever. No, definitely no.

Best wishes.