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  • #409428
    Tee
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    Dear thosedays,

    This is very true. I am planning to have a self assessment with a experienced clinical psychologist to dive into my inner child and see what is missing.

    That’s a very good decision! Digging deeper into your childhood issues, unmet needs etc… will definitely help you move forward!

    You seem to have a very good in dept level of understanding one’s cognition. We can have some private conversation if you dont mind, perhaps shed some light on my situation.

    Thank you, thosedays, but there is no possibility to send private messages on this forum… I understand if you don’t feel comfortable sharing more in this space. If you still change your mind, I am here 🙂

    I can’t really tell but i believe she will be supportive.

    Great! Sounds very promising that your girlfriend is supportive and open to your self-exploration. If she’s not afraid to see you change and be more true to yourself – I think it’s a very good sign for the prospect of your relationship too.

     

    #410206
    anita
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    How are you, thosedays?

    anita

    #410516
    anxie1y
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    Hi Tee,

    Great to hear that 🙂

     

    Hi Anita

    Thanks for asking. I’m doing terribly bad.

    After a lot of reading, I finally found myself diagnosed with adult ADHD.

    It’s gonna to be a painful process to destroy everything I’ve created and start over again.

     

     

     

    #410518
    anita
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    Dear anxie 1y:

    You submitted replies as anxie 1y/ George back in Aug-Dec 2018. Assuming that you are the same member with the screen name thosedays, good to read back from you! Can you elaborate on why or how you think that your recent ADHD diagnosis will lead to “a painful process to destroy everything I’ve created and start over”?

    anita

    #410638
    Tee
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    Dear anxie1y/thosedays,

    I am sorry you’re feeling bad 🙁

    After a lot of reading, I finally found myself diagnosed with adult ADHD.

    Have you been evaluated by a professional? You did say you would go get a professional evaluation, but I am still asking because it’s not clear from your sentence.

    I don’t know much about adult ADHD, but they say it’s highly treatable. Do you have a treatment plan?

    Please share whatever you feel like, whatever you’re struggling with. I hope that with a proper treatment and a proper attitude, you will get better!

     

    #410674
    anita
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    I hope that you are feeling, better, anxie1y, are you?

    anita

     

    #410728
    Roberta
    Participant

    Dear Thosedays

    I am guessing that your are in your 20’s/30’s.

    I agree with Anita about offering to pay for your soon to be ex girlfriends counselling if she wants it.

    Then take at least a year out to do some deep work on healing yourself. A fictional book called The Celestian Prophecies gave me insight on relationships and help set me on my path of buddhist enquiry into the human condition.  I have had quite a few relationships, but I can honestly say that I am still on good terms with all off them who are still living bar one.

    Act with kindness, integrity compassion &and wisdom then  when you look back over your life in years to come you will have few regrets.

     

    #411002
    anita
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    Dear thosedays/ anxiety1y:

    I was wondering: on Nov 1 I suggested that you apologize to your girlfriend for having used her for the duration of two years to fill a void in you, following the breakup of a 4-year previous relationship,  and that (following the ending of the relationship with her) you pay for her to attend individual therapy, so that she can get professional help dealing with having been used this way.

    In your answer, you wrote: “It’s a good suggestion from your end. Having relationship therapy together“- is it that you didn’t pay attention to my suggestion because of your ADHD?

    anita

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