Hi, unfortunately, there is no time limit on heart break and it varies from person to person.

I’ve been there, though, and I can tell you that you will get over it. Try to keep yourself occupied, busy with friends or hobbies, whatever. Don’t let her lack of the same feelings make you feel that you’ve done anything wrong, the feelings could have just been too much for her.

Take your time to heal, but be sure not to dwell! All of the could have and what if’s can drive you crazy, and I know they’re common in situations such as this. I think taking some time apart from each other is key to help you in moving on, and help your friendship remain for whenever you’re ready.

Take this time to focus on you so that you can attract the right girl into your life. There will be another you fall in love with, believe me. This is a lesson, proving to you that you’re strong enough to love and endure heart break. It’s setting you up for something amazing, I’m sure of it.

Best of luck. 🙂

Everything is still fresh, so it’s all going to seem more dramatic right now. I’m sure in a year, you’re going to look back on this and see why what happened and why it happened this way.

I know how hard it can be when your mind is consumed by doubt and worry and longing for what once was. But you have to try to remind yourself that this was the card you were dealt this hand, and you have to make the best of it — even if it sucks. You’re a lot stronger than you think, and crying is ok. Don’t try to deny or push away these feelings, accept them, but don’t dwell on them either.

Honestly, I’m only 29, but something I’ve learned recently is there is no “right one” and categorizing love into different check lists is only a recipe for you to get hurt. I realize that she fulfilled all of your expectations of the “right one” but she’s missing the most important one, which is giving you the love you deserve.

That being said, you mentioned she had a string of bad relationships which may have damaged her– that doesn’t necessarily mean you will damage her too. Have you expressed to her you know her history and you want to take the time to prove to her not every man will hurt her? Though I obviously don’t know the how everything transpired, or what she said, but it’s a possibility she was scared of jumping into another relationship that she believes will just damage her further, so she repressed her feelings, because it’s easier that way than getting hurt. Again, I don’t know this for a fact, but I do know that I have been guilty of saying opposite of how I feel to protect my heart. And it’s taken a guy with a similar heartbroken history to (slowly) help me to break down the walls. (as I am slowly breaking down his, as well)

I don’t know what will happen between you and this girl, but I do know that you will make it through it. It won’t be easy, but it will happen.

I think that is a great idea. Good luck.

Hi, Sorry to hear the pain you are going through. I have been through similar as my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me via blackberry messenger and I never saw or heard from him again (as he cheated on me and is not married to her).

It was a horrible horrible pain, I went through tears, begging, writing letters, writing emails, stalking on social media, stalking the girlfriend on social media, going out and getting drunk with my friends, I wrote a farewell letter and then I begun to accept it. Its a pretty hard thing to go through but I thought I really loved him with all my heart but it is only until I met my boyfriend who I now own a house with that I realised that was not love. Not the love I know now.

This may not help you, but just go with the stages of pain, listen to sad music, write letters (but preferably don’t send them) and talk it over with your friends and you will soon feel ready to move on.

Thanks my only advice, I don’t regret sending him letters and begging although I am sure I would have come across a lot better and less pathetic if I didn’t. It all helped in the end and hopefully it will help you! I have no need or desire to ever speak to him again, I wish him a happy life in my head but its over, he is not my friend.