August 10, 2019 at 12:10 pm #307465
She has a choice and I offered her a choice of whether she wants to go or not. If she doesn’t want to go, she would have said no.
Why will she put herself in a difficult situation if she doesnt want to go and it will be wasting her own time?
I am trying not to judge her in a way that it will reflect negatively about her. Thus it will lead me to overthink about it.
I believe if she doesn’t want to go, she will have said no.August 10, 2019 at 1:04 pm #307473
I know she has a choice but that doesn’t mean she’ll feel comfortable saying no to your face, because she might not want to hurt your feelings. I really think it’s possible that she has no intention of going, based on what you’ve said… even though she told you yes. Time will tell, though. If she contacts you before the trip, saying she wants to go, then that means she wants to go.August 11, 2019 at 12:39 am #307535
The trip is next month and she is the one that initiated the trip first.
I have asked her so many times whether the trip is on and she said yes. She has so many chances to decline the trip and she isn’t the type that will afraid to say no. Yes, it is possible that she doesn’t want to go on the trip but what are the chances since I have even prompt it up to her to cancel the trip which she decline and wants to proceed with the trip.
August 11, 2019 at 7:24 am #307543
- This reply was modified 2 months, 1 week ago by SteveRodger.
On the thread you had and deleted and on this thread, you ask the same questions over and over again, many times. You probably ask these questions on other websites as well. People answer and you are never satisfied with the answers you receive. Sometimes you say that you are, but then you ask the same questions all over again. I figure people lose patience with you, getting angry eventually about being asked the same questions again, and again and yet, again.
This woman you work with, the one your threads are about, you ask her the same questions again and again as well, for example, you asked her many times if that trip is cancelled. You get an answer and you ask yet again. And then, you go online and ask the members of this website the same question: is the trip cancelled?
On the first page of this thread, I copied from an online source for you. I will paraphrase some of it here:
Emotional Intelligence is a person’s ability to understand his emotional state as well as other people’s emotional states. Your Intelligence, or IQ in other areas is fine, but in the area of emotions, your intelligence is lower than that of the great majority of people. This is why you spend most of your time alone, not socializing with people, and why this sort-of friendship is not going well. You can’t figure out what this woman wants or means, what does anything about her behavior means.. you don’t know.
From page 1: “This is the experience of challenged emotional intelligence. This is commonly the experience of a person with Asperger’s. Anxiety soars as the person wonders hat he or she did wrong, what he or she failed to understand, or what was missed… With therapy, a person with Asperger’s can learn to decode some of what seems mysterious in the realm of emotional intelligence. It is possible to discern intellectually what may not come naturally emotionally… Learning helps a person with Asperger’s navigate the complex emotional undertones of daily life. It also helps relieve the free-floating anxiety that can accompany conversations and events”
Also: “The defining feature of autism spectrum disorders (ASD) is impairment in interpersonal relating and communication”
In summary, what I suggest that you do next: type this very post I will be submitting to you and make an appointment with a medical doctor. Give the doctor the printed page that suggests that maybe you fit the criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), specifically Asperger’s.
Let a qualified medical doctor or doctors examine you and figure out if you fit the criteria and diagnose you. Following their professional diagnosis, have them direct you to a professionals whose expertise is to teach autistic people function better in social contexts. With better functioning, you will feel less anxious, obsess way less and .. feel better.
I know of an autistic man who has a high tech job, a high IQ, but a very low Emotional Intelligence. He is married and has a good relationship with his wife who understands autism and the two of them got all the help they need to make their marriage work. If you want to make your life better, see a doctor and take it from there.
September 7, 2019 at 8:11 pm #310795
- This reply was modified 2 months, 1 week ago by anita.
I am seeing a therapist, whatever diagnosis you made doesn’t make sense. It is totally off from what my therapist deduced or even diagnose it to be.
Unless you are a therapist or a professional, I suggest you do not make assumption just because you deem it to be thanks.
People seek help or just want a listening ear that’s why people comes to this platform to vent out, not for you to judge or even determine whether a person is sick