Dear Alecsee:

“I know that I might have messed up in the final convo”- we all mess up once in a while, Alecsee.

“I have to forgive myself”- please do forgive yourself: learn how to do better in the future, do better.. and forgive yourself for the past.

“Love is about actually loving everything about ur partner; the good and the bad. or most things.”- maybe not loving everything about your partner, but giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, considering her intent, her struggles, her point of view- before judging her negatively.

“at the time I am the best version of myself that I can be.”- the key is (I have learnt most recently) is to see that being the worst version of yourself does not include mistreating others.

“I wanna move on”- I hope you do!

“How close do in personality do ppl have to be to grow old together? How close do the hobbies have to intertwine?”- I would say it takes being honest with each other in every step of the way, not expecting perfection, or anything close to perfection- not from her, and not from yourself. Be real with her (whomever your partner is), and encourage her to be real with you.

“I have a type, body type, race that I have gone for and am attracted to.”- understandable. You don’t choose what or whom you are attracted you, do you..?

Anita