Hello,

My boyfriend of only a year and a half and I recently split. Though our relationship was tumultuous and I knew I wanted to leave before everything happened, I still feel it really hard to get rid of the lingering anger and paranoid thoughts. I discovered he was texting a certain girl who I was not comfortable with him talking to as I noticed months ago that he had deleted facebook messages from her (already a red flag). He was talking about what he was doing on the weekend.. of my birthday no doubt.. with no mention of me. That threw me through a loop and I decided to pack up my things and set off to my parents house. He denied that it was anything but innocent, yet I wasn’t “worthy” of having the argument with and didn’t want to be with me anymore. Haha, I was already leaving. It has been a week and I was just starting to feel really good about leaving, and the break-up. I had blocked him from most social media sites except for Snapchat, a site in which you send pictures to other people where you can only view the pictures for a few seconds before it deletes. There is a thing where you can see who someones “best friends” are. The people who they send pictures to the most. I saw his “best friend” was a girl who he had been seeing right before we were in a relationship. Which made me question how long that had been going on. Now I am haven’t all of these thoughts about every other suspicious thing that has happened in our relationship, and I want to freak out because I now think he was cheating on me the whole time. I know that it’s best to just cut contact and not bring it up but something inside of me is demanding answers to all of the unsolved mysteries that are only coming to rise AFTER the break-up. It’s making it hard to move on. I would so love to hear your opinions on the situation, it would help a lot.

Thank you.