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    Clerance
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    My ex bf and I tried to communicate normally after our break up (3 months after low contact, he was the dumper) and hang out with our mutual friends. But it didn’t work out well because he got upset over something. I can’t even remember what exactly we talked about. He seemed ok one time and then get annoyed because of something stupid. He was very moody. And one day he texted me it’s time to block me on everything and was very clear he doesn’t want me to contact him anymore. So I did. I was surprised because in my opinion- I didn’t give him a reason. But I accepted it and tried to move on. Two weeks ago I recieved a message from him saying ‘Can we get in touch again? ?’ Next day I checked out my FB and there was a friend request from him. So he also unblocked me. I didn’t reply the request. Actually I deleted it. He was so mean back then so he should probably apologize and then I can change my mind. But after few days of NC I started to feel better and I rather don’t want to communicate with him after all this progress.
    It was hard to me to accept just friendship before but I tried and didn’t mention anything. Didn’t beg or plead. But it was all still weird for me. I acted in non flirty way and was joking and focused on finding someone new. Before he blocked me he wrote he thought I’m still not over him. (He found all this joking as flirting so it was probably the reason to block me. I denied it but it didn’t matter.)
    I still have some feelings for him. Some days I’m ok with the idea of never talking to him again but I still hope for something. But I plan to continue with NC to not hurt myself again.
    Do you think it’s a good idea to stick to no contact? Do you think he will contact me soon? Is his unblocking a sign of anything? I noticed he started to follow me on Facebook as well. NC is not a manipulation act in my case. I really wish to avoid false hopes.

    Thank you for your responses. I’m really strong but I’ m also curious.

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    Anonymous
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    Dear Clerance:

    You wrote that he “was very moody”, if you mean that he was very moody throughout the relationship, that would mean that even if he was or is interested in a relationship with him when he unblocked you etc., he may soon change his mind. What do you think?

    anita

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    Anonymous
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    * didn’t reflect under Topics

    #219713
    Prash
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    Dear Clerance,

    Seems to be a lot of confusion in his mind; being the dumper, then deciding to be friends (assuming he is the one who wanted to remain friends since you mentioned feeling weird), then blocking for no obvious reasons and without offering you any reason and then resuming contact as if nothing has happened.

    NC started to make you feel better; when he told you not to contact him you were able to maintain NC without any discomfort. Unless you wanted to re enter the same cycle again, NC seems your best option. Curiosity is at best allowed to die its own death.

    #219867
    Lara
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    Clearance, I vote NC too. There is nothing for you to gain getting into contact with him again, he sounds fishy.

    #219843
    Alexandria
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    Dear Clerance, I’m currently going through a breakup too where my ex bf was the dumper.  It’s been a little over 2 months since my breakup and in the beginning I tried to keep in contact. I wanted to have a friendship and he said the same thing too but for some reason I was the one always initiating conversation. I still had feelings for him and he was giving me mixed signals about his feelings but After a month I decided to go No Contact because I didn’t want to keep hurting myself and giving myself false hope. I feel like you should continue with your no contact too. Your ex sounds a little confused about his feelings maybe. I think you need to continue to maintain space between him and continue to focus on yourself. No worries, you will find a new partner who isn’t moody and knows exactly what he wants.

    Best of Luck!

     

     

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