How do I let go of feeling like I'll never catch up?

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March 31, 2014 at 7:32 pm #53898

M
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How do I let go of pride? A while back, I was injured and taken out of a sport I love. Over six months have gone by, and although I’m fully capable of going back, I’m scared to go back. I’m not scared that I’ll get injured again, but I’m scared I won’t be able to keep up, that I don’t deserve the rank I earned over six months ago. In my sport, I have always been the slowest to learn, the slowest to finish the warm up. I’m afraid I’ll be even worse then when I first started; that my teammates, who have years of experience over me, will think I am dragging them down by making them wait for me to finish warm up. I’ve always been afraid of this. A friend of mine in another sport told me that she didn’t care about being last, that she would work as hard as she could for something she loved. I don’t even remember if I love the sport anymore- I can only remember being slowest, and the fear of being looked down on, of being left behind. How do I let go of these feelings in order to get back to something I really like?

March 31, 2014 at 8:47 pm #53902
Luna
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Hi there, i’ve never been in your position but i a few times, i do feel that way..
What i suggest is. Just be confident as you are, everyone knows that you had an accident. Be calm, and enjoy the sport.. don’t think too much about what others may think of you.
If it really bother you, why don’t you go ahead and ask/confront them how you feel? “.. am i being too slow? am i dragging you guys down..?”
The reason why your friend did not feel the same way even if she comes last, because it is true that men do have lots of pride and ego. Let go of that, maybe you would enjoy the activity more?
If you care about your pride, people will notice that… if you don’t, they won’t feel it. Its how you feel that spread the vibes.
Just relax, just do what you do and don’t think!
And don’t assume, that they thinks you’re dragging them down, don’t assume, don’t think too much, just enjoy the game. It is just a game, it’s not a competition 🙂
I hope, this may help you more or less. Goodluck with the game 🙂
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March 31, 2014 at 9:27 pm #53907

M
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Thanks for the advice luna, I appreciate it. I also would like to mention that i’m a girl, just so you know 🙂

March 31, 2014 at 11:27 pm #53917

Luna
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oops i thought you would be a guy for some reason 🙂 But it works both ways, guys or girls both have their pride and ego but mostly men i say. 🙂 Goodluck 🙂

April 1, 2014 at 1:29 am #53927

@Jasmine-3
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Thanks Luna.

Hi M

This is 007 😉

Congrats on getting your fitness back and recovering from your injury. Many people never get to recover from their injuries and go on to live with regrets for the rest of their lives. You are a lucky woman !!

I am not sure what sports or team work mean for you personally. For me, it is about getting better each day, being the best I can be at what I do with whole heart and helping my team achieve its goal. It has never been about competition with others or what others may think about me. There is only one of you in this world. Even if your parents wanted to create another M, they wont succeed. You are as unique as it gets, which means you are as special as anyone else in this world. So where is the competition, pride, fear, failure etc ? It is unfortunately all in our heads.

So tell your mind to bugger all and go back to your sport (only if you love it and have passion for it). If you dont have passion for something then it is a lot harder to convince the mind or the physical body to help us out.

Count your lucky stars and get on with life. One of the local state rugby player (who is only 22) down under was declared a quadriplegic yesterday post a nasty tackle few days ago – his life will never be the same again but I know he will come around and make the best of what life has dealt him. Whats stopping you ?

J

April 1, 2014 at 6:33 pm #53972

Al
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M,

Why do we do the things that we love? This is a trick question. *Wink* In any case, when we do the things we love I believe we naturally will excel at them. For example, a person who loves fitness will excel at maintaining motivation to be/stay fit, a person who loves to cook will excel at creating tasteful dishes, a person who loves to draw will excel at drawing, etc…. Hence, if you love your sport you will naturally, and eventually, come to excel at it because of the satisfaction it will instill within yourself.

Also, if you fear your teammates will resent you for not playing to their expectations then the fault, disappointment and shame lies with them. If they cannot show compassion and understanding towards another teammate who suffered an injury then I suppose it is best for you to find a new team.

Regards,

Al
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