September 9, 2019 at 7:07 am #311001
It’s becoming more apparent to me that although my life conditions are favorable (decent job, decent apartment, meaningful relationships, therapy, time for self-care) I am lacking a sense of purpose, whether it be connection to others or myself. I’ve thought about volunteering and I would like to dedicate more time writing memoirs and reading. I’m just curious to see how others are able to fulfill this need. I feel like I need a project. I’m open to any ideas, thanks 🙂September 9, 2019 at 2:51 pm #311099
You know yourself best. What is stopping yourself from following through with your suggestions. Volunteering gives you a connection to others and can make a positive difference in your community. Writing your memoirs gives you a connection to yourself and acts as therapy. Reading is fine but a hobby carried out by one – depends on the subject matter – novels, autobiographies, studying a subject you are passionate about. Book clubs where you discuss the content of a novel you are reading gives you a connection with like-minded people.
You can volunteer in all sorts of different areas – forestry, wall building, animal welfare, helping the elderly, and so on. If you don’t already know where you would like to put your energies, give some thought to this.
PeggySeptember 11, 2019 at 6:33 am #311551
What is stopping me? I suppose nothing really. I just know a lot of the time I feel exhausted which is attributed to how difficult my mental health can be sometimes. I will do some more thinking on this!
ThaliaSeptember 11, 2019 at 9:21 am #311603PeterParticipant
We tend to desire Purpose as an objective experience, a job a passion… but such experiences can’t last. The truth is the experience exists in the moment and like all moments flows by.
Whether you notice it or not, all that you are, as you are, and do is purpose and gives meaning to life (life does not give you meaning you give meaning to life). What your looking to experience then may not be purpose.
Some Quotes on purpose and meaning by – Joseph Campbell
“We’re so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about. – Joseph Campbell
“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.”
“Life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be lived.”
“We’re not on our journey to save the world but to save ourselves. But in doing that you save the world”
“We’re in a freefall into future. We don’t know where we’re going. Things are changing so fast, and always when you’re going through a long tunnel, anxiety comes along. And all you have to do to transform your hell into a paradise is to turn your fall into a voluntary act. It’s a very interesting shift of perspective and that’s all it is… joyful participation in the sorrows and everything changes”September 12, 2019 at 6:35 am #311809
Exhaustion stops you doing anything and everything as well I know. Do you want to discuss your mental health issues further? It sounds as if, basically, you may need to learn techniques that quieten your mind. Learn and apply the “STOP” technique when agitating thoughts enter your consciousness and make yourself replace those thoughts with positive affirmations or positive statements.
Following your passions could be just the antidote you need to counteract your exhaustion. Resolve to spend half an hour a day writing your memoirs. Every journey begins with a single step.
PeggySeptember 12, 2019 at 9:27 am #311835AdamuParticipant
When you start forgiving everything starts falling in place and you definitely will find purposeSeptember 27, 2019 at 9:00 am #314671
You are right, I believe that once I began dedicating time to those hobbies, then my exhaustion will lessen. A lot of the time I have trouble saying no to others, especially my roommate, and I miss out on that time to work on things that I love. Thank you for your guidance and I will try the STOP technique.September 27, 2019 at 11:42 am #314741
Book that “me time” in your diary. Let people know that you are busy. The first of the Harry Potter books was written in a cafe by a single parent. You don’t necessarily have to write in your room is what I am saying. I sometimes take a writing pad to the park with me for my memoirs and then type them up later. So far, it’s working. Give top priority to the things you love to do. Follow your heart.