Here’s what I said in an email to my other friend, who had suggested being nice to them:

I simply don’t care about either of them anymore. Like you said, they didn’t care enough about me to not to betray and hurt me in the first place.

So I think I’ve answered my own question here! I don’t care anymore. So why should I even acknowledge them with a ‘hi and a wave, and an ‘everything is fine in my garden, so there!’ I no longer care what they think, even if they think I’m being rude not to even speak to them. They are both ‘persona non grata’ to me now. Nothing. Nobodies. You don’t speak to nothing, you don’t speak to people you don’t know either. It turned out I didn’t know either of them.

So I will simply ignore them, should we ever meet again. You are right, Anita. 🙂

Hi Anita,

I agree with all you say above. Yes, it’s a done deal!  And I am better for making that decision. Thanks for you time and patience with me. Yes, this attitude of ‘stiff upper lip’ is the British things to do… not necessarily the wisest or best thing to do – for yourself.

* Thank you. I always hesitate about giving replies to others on their threads, but if I think I can help then I try. I’m glad you think me sensible and wise, I think Life teaches you a lot, and some situations with others touch me as I have been there myself.  I’m nearly 60 now and have been through an awful lot of life! 🙂

I think we might close on this particular subject now. After a lot of time and support from my friends and family, and of course your own and others’ help on here, I think I shall be ok with this one now, but I couldn’t have done it without your take on this one., so thank you once again.