What do you mean “available to someone else given the right circumstances?”  Can you clarify that?  Available to hang out and do things with other people as a friend or available to date?

Are you unable to go to the concert she’s going to or were you not invited?

Hi JC,

What gets a laugh track on TV often falls flat in real life. That’s what happened here.

This is mean, but it gets the job done (in my experience):

The next time she says something that humiliates you in public say right then and there: “You’re not that cool.”

BOOM! That will either end the hurtful comments OR the relationship. Both outcome totally worth it.

Good Luck!

Inky

Dear JC:

Why don’t you tell her just that, that it makes you nervous and you think its disrespectful. Then hear what she will tell you and post here, what she tells you, will you?

anita

Dear JC:

Tell her that it made you nervous and you felt disrespected when she said what she said, tell her just that (don’t add to it) and wait for her reaction. Pay attention to what she says. If you don’t know what to say next, if you are confused, tell her that you need to get away from the phone and that you will call her later. Then post here what she said.

anita

JC… can you answer my question, please? Does “available to someone else” mean available for sex, dating, or just hanging out?  Did she invite you to the concert or are you just unable to go?

It’s one thing if she’s saying she’s available for dates, sex, and things like that with other people or didn’t even invite you to go with her to that concert but it’s another thing if she’s just wanting to take a friend to a concert since you aren’t able to go with her. So those details are kind of important.