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    Mary
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    Hi.

    I was looking for a juicer with my boyfriend online today. We have been together for 5 years. I caught him ona dating site years ago, and like today, he became wildly loud and went on the defense, and was completely untruthful.

    We were on Facebook marketplace, using his phone to buy a juicer. We did several inquiries and the messages were coming I. Like hot cakes. It was his idea to use his phone.   I thought I was clicking a response and it was an extensive conversation between him and an x. I am in a state of shock.

    The sad thing about is I can not afford to move and I am in shock and feel stuck.  I am a case manager that works to place homeless people in long-term care, and I can not find care for myself. I have no family and no viable options.  I have not been using mindfulness or meditation long, but, it did help…or that could be shock.

    I have pets, so a roommate situation could be sticky. I keep thing about what Sharon Salzberg said when she became stuck.  She said that something always happens. Meaning to me, something like this too shall pass… or when a door closes,climb out a window.

     

    Can an anyone help me because I don’t want to fight. He is pouting and I know I will have big feelings later. I just feel adrift.

    Blessings,

    Mary

    #219151
    Mark
    Participant

    So sorry about your situation Mary.  It is hard to think of options when you feel trapped.

    I encourage you to start your mindfulness and meditation practice again.  That is a starting place.  I find that in order to access our inner resources, meditation and mindfulness are great tools to get there.

    Sit with your feelings, breath into it.  Rinse and repeat.

    Mark

    #219157
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Mary

    It is difficult to sustain a relationship when there is dishonesty involved. You may not be able to move out immediately but that is what you should look to be doing.

    The work that you are involved is a noble one. I’m sure you have the strength to see you through this situation.

    When a door is closed invariably another opens but you need to actively look for it. There may be people who will love your pets as you do.

    Hope you are able to see this through

    Take care

    #219221
    Anonymous
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    Dear Mary:

    From your previous thread as well as this one, this relationship is not good for you. You suggested that you want to move out but have “no viable options” to move out, to find a place and live separately from this man. Your job helping homeless people find a home does not pay enough for you to find yourself a home.

    Is it possible for you to quit your job and enroll in the program as a customer, as a person that needs help finding a home?

    anita

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