My boyfriend and I have always had a pretty great relationship until recently. I never had a reason to snoop through his phone, and now I do. I don’t want advice on much, just how to confront him without letting him know that I snooped. He would most likely use the fact that I invaded his privacy to make me look like the bad guy. I want to make this as easy as possible, because I do love him a lot but I can’t be with someone who will lie to me. How do I do this?

So, over a month ago my boyfriend of a year messaged me while he was high. He never smoked before, and I definitely know this. He promised me a few days before that he would always tell me if he were to ever smoke or have his hands on weed at all. He broke the promise barely 3 days later. I got over it, we got over it. It was a one time thing, he promised me that and lived up to it for a bit. I had to use his facebook for something and I stumbled upon his messages with a man. He was asking him for weed and all that nice stuff for a few weeks. We went on break for a bit after I told him about this. I wanted to break up with him but we decided to just do a break, to get our heads straight. He promised me again that he learned his lesson and that he would never do something like this ever. Can you guess what happened? After some time after the break, he’s been hanging out with his best friend a lot, who is well known for doing things like acid and weed as well as dealing it. I was concerned but he constantly reassured me that they weren’t doing anything like that. I believed him. I truly did. That may have been stupid on my end but he’s truly amazing outside of this. I snooped through his phone after some weird things have been happening. He’s shown much enthusiasm to anything that has to do with weed and keeps his phone to himself as well as disappears at random times. I snooped and only looked at his messages with his best friend. My boyfriend has smoked, every time they hung out, and now he’s interested in selling weed and buying it. He’s been constantly promising that he doesn’t do this stuff, but it’s obviously not true. I don’t know how to confront him about this without letting him know I snooped. Should I just be straight forward and tell him that I did? I want to make this as easiest as it can be, because my feelings are so strong for him and he’s helped me so much with everything and has never done anything wrong, disregarding everything I just mentioned. I don’t want to be involved with someone who smokes. I don’t care who smokes, but I do care if I’m with a person who does. I simply don’t want to be involved. I told him that and he understood. Now he’s trying to become a dealer and I’m just not okay with this at all.