Hello David,

It could be that she is just stringing you a long. When someone likes you they will do anything to spend time with you. It could also be that she enjoyed the playfulness in the moment, but then realized that’s not what she wanted to act on. A really good top on understanding someone is to look at their actions rather than their words. It’s so easy to spit out words – practically free. However, spending time with someone requires more effort. For the male, he usually pays or does the initiating and sets time aside. For the female, she has to follow through, get ready and spend time. When you like someone you will automatically jump at the idea of spending time with them because it is most likely an enjoyable experience. It could also be that something else is going on in her life. However, because you have already asked to hang out on multiple occasions and she has ignored it – just stop. I suggest to Let things be how they are and don’t ask again unless she gives a valid reason for avoiding the question. I think a mature and serious individual who does not play games will be forwards in accepting or declining an invitation. To be honest people lead others on for their own thrill. Just leg things be and she if she asks you out or brings it up. Either give it sometime to see if things change or just ask her why she avoids the question and whether she is interested. That way you can get on with your life rather than play detective. When somebody isn’t playing games you won’t have to play detective or figure them out, they will be clear with their intentions. Best of luck to you.

Annie

Dear Adam P:

You wrote that her face was red when you lay in bed. I suppose she was embarrassed. Why else would her face be red? (Was the tepmerature up?) – she may be afraid the touching will go too far. why don’t you text her and ask her if she would like to hang out in a public place, go to the movies or the park. If she is afraid of things going places in her place or yours, then going to a public place may be okay with her. test this hypothesis?
anita