Dear Wanting to be anonymous:

CFS: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is a syndrome.  A syndrome is “a group of symptoms that consistently occur together.” The cause of a syndrome is not necessarily one cause for all people suffering the syndrome, and there can be a few causes for one particular sufferer.

Various symptoms and factors relating to a syndrome may be thought of as the cause (the “egg” let’s say) while they are the result (the “chicken”).

The cause or causes for your father’s CFS may very well not be the same as your brother’s or sister’s. CFS, like other syndromes, is not something someone gets or catches. Often, with CFS, the development of the syndrome (combination of symptoms) is gradual.

In genetics, eye color is determined clearly. For example (as far as I know)- a child can have blue eyes only if both parents carry a gene for blue eyes, recessively or dominantly, and there is no other way. CFS is definitely far, far from being passed on like blue eyes, if there is at all any genetic element to it in some people.

Your very fear, coupled by getting the flu can cause an escalation of symptoms. You are sick, you feel brain fog, your cognitive functioning is not as good as before, you feel tired… your anxiety increases, and brain fog increases (it increases for anyone suffering anxiety). This may have happened with your siblings.

Does this help?

anita

I know it is easy said then done but if you keep focusing on “the what if” in every start of your sentences you will never able to overcome any of your negative thoughts and increase your unhappiness in life. You deserve to be happy like and loved, so do what makes you happy and live in the present moment that is all you can do. Worrying is the worse disease we can ever take on in life, so let go and move forward.

I believe that if you are happy, everything else is figureoutable:) So love yourself enough to give yourself a chance to be happy!

Hi wanting to be anonymous,

I was seeing a psychiatrist a few years back but I decided to stop because I realized it didn’t help me as much as I thought it would be. So what I have discovered and wrote on my blog were the followings:

– Find something that you love to do alone or group (mine was team sports)

– Meditate (I do it 10 mins a day before or after bed because it calms your mind to think better)

– Read (I would recommend “The Art of Happiness” by Dalai Lama)

– Exercise (I do it when I don’t feel like doing it:) hope that makes sense, it is very uplifting and you will feel amazing after physically and emotionally)

-Try new things every weekend, whether is cooking or explore a new neighborhood

-Travel more (plan a getaway weekend with your girls or partner)

Hope it helps.

Cheers.

Hi wanting to be anonymous, hope you feel better and nothing serious. Glad I can help.

recently i think i fell in love with one of my clsmates.Actually i am not intersted in loving her but it is becoming an involuntary action in getting thoughts continuously about her.I have completely lost my focus on my career due to thoughts of seeing her and talking to her and expeting something from her.I am currently in a very big distraction about that girl.I am an entepreneur and i have so many responsibilities that i have to take up.But i am not able to concentrate on my career due to he.Even while writing this also i am continuously getting thoughts about her.Please find me a solution.

Look at the positives in your life. Focus on those. It’s not about blocking the negatives out as such, they’re not going to go away. They’re still there, sometimes they either subdue, increase or just disappear altogether. Uncertainty is just part of life. Hence why being present is essential. Like some of the other replies; do new things, do enjoyable things together. Having a partner you love and who loves you, together you can drive each other to be more present in the moment and appreciate what you have together, and continue to build on it. You’re still alive, everybody you know and love are still with you, and you’re with them. Make the most out of the time you have.

Clear your mind of the emotions and be present with the fact you’re alive and think of the positives in your life.

There are no easy words or actions other people can do to help you as much as you and your mind can enable you to do yourself. But people still care, we care, else why else would we try and express ourselves to you, spiritual hugs and heart felt sincere smile that also radiate from my eyes – be present in the moment