Hi Awesome Reader,

Before I dig deep into what I wanted to share and seek your feedback upon, I want to give you a gist of what’s to come. Basically, I want your feedback upon letting go and be at peace with situations and people who have/are hurting you. It may not necessarily be a romantic relationship but in general any relationship. It would mean a lot for me if you could suggest anything to me.

I am a little confused as to from where to begin. So, I’ll try to recount the essential details in as little space as possible. Before I begin, I’ll share a few details about me. I am an introverted person who prefers the company of others yet wants to stay in my own space. I wish to be best friends with people but at the same time, wants to stay in my shell and not interact with them much. So, now coming to my story –

It all started around 4 years back. I graduated my college as an engineer and went ahead to work in an MNC. Over the course of 4 years, a social group of around 8 was created which gradually increased as people got married. I was a very different person 4 years back. I didn’t know my emotions or any sense of right and wrong. I could go on and on about it but today, I just call it immaturity. So, the result of this and my introverted ways was that I could never get too close to anyone in the group. Even after most of the misunderstandings were cleared, others couldn’t feel any sense of closeness with me. Over the last 2 years, most of the group disintegrated as people moved to different cities. I always yearned for the closeness which everyone seemed to share with each other. I often felt disheartened thinking that there is something wrong with me due to others not putting in any effort for me. That might be true as well.

I left that city and moved to the US to pursue my graduate studies. From past few days, they ramped up the activity on the WhatsApp group. They seem to know what is happening in each other’s lives and they do plan a lot of stuff together. They seek each other’s advice and keep each other involved in their lives in general. However, I am just on the outskirts watching the show progress. I time and again put in efforts by texting or calling them. I even went to meet a few of them before coming to US. But most of the time, I am just greeted with polite talk. Today, I feel so hurt that I don’t feel like talking with them anymore and just cut them from my life.

With my graduate studies further narrowing my social circle, I am at my wits ends to not fall in the trap of depression once again. Can you please suggest me how can I come at peace with these situations?