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December 19, 2022 at 12:34 pm #412169AnonymousInactive
Dear Anita,
You are the first the person that ever referred to me as a hero . After I researched the definition I realized that was a compliment .
I am Building a Healthy Routine
December 19, 2022 at 12:46 pm #412171AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
I am the first person who noticed who you really are, a hero! I am pleased that I am good at seeing- in my mind’s eye- what others failed to notice.
anita
December 20, 2022 at 5:24 am #412190AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
It is 8:21 am on the east coast and I’m starting my daily workout. I’m proud of myself.
I am Building a Healthy Routine
December 20, 2022 at 5:45 am #412192AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
I am proud of you too! It is now 21 minutes since you submitted the above, I wonder if you are done with the exercise by now…?
anita
December 20, 2022 at 7:10 am #412195AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
Yes I completed the workout.
I added my sauna jacket and squats to the 10 minute indoor bike ride and I feel great , but this morning I had to push myself. Today is day 3 of my 7 day commitment (I just made this up) but I’m going to attempt to exercise 7 days straight . Big Commitment for me .
I am Building a Healthy Routine
I am Building a Healthy Routine
December 20, 2022 at 7:30 am #412197AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS for yet another workout and a more elaborate one, day 3 of a 7-day commitment!!!
A Hero is one who keeps her word to herself no matter what, even if she has to push herself, and a Hero you are!!!
anita
December 20, 2022 at 7:53 am #412198AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
I still don’t know my why with fitness/exercise but it’s something that’s important to me . I think when I got sent to my room as a kid exercise was what I did to comfort myself and it was rewarding and it never left me or hurt me . I also feel great and soon will be looking great .
Thanks Anita
December 20, 2022 at 7:56 am #412199AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
Exercising daily no matter what, even after burying two people very close to me . That’s big !
December 20, 2022 at 7:57 am #412200AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
You are very welcome! Exercise never left you or hurt you when you were a kid… I see why fitness and exercise are important to you, and I am so glad that it makes you feel great! I hope that you soon look as great as you want to look!
anita
December 20, 2022 at 10:03 am #412206AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine: I just noticed your most recent post: “Exercising daily no matter what, even after burying two people very close to me. That’s big!“- yes it is, it is big!
anita
December 20, 2022 at 1:37 pm #412219AnonymousInactiveDear Anita ,
I have commitment issues , Once i committed to studying and gathering the correct supplies for the Ged I passed the Ged because i didnt quit.
Commitment issues might stem from a single traumatic event, early childhood stress, or a series of small events.
As a child i didn’t see anything i wanted to keep , my mother did her best ( because im doing my best and its not easy,she had three little ones,i have one ) but now im noticing the more i educate myself im understanding why my childhood was so hard my mom was a young single mom.
Growing up I thought my mom or family didnt love me
Her and our family complimented my younger sister about her beauty and accomplishments and i dont think i did well in school and i had darker skin i was chubbier than her i also ate more and curly short hair. (Now my looks are considered as beautiful ) Life is not that bad after all
I now think she was busy with her young three children (my two brothers came years later) I wish i was a more supportive daughter . She didnt graduate high school , I did 8 in a half years after she died and as a single parent . I still wish i could have been a better daughter . Beacuse of it all im a better sister and a better mom . I wish i could thank my mom she is the person who signed me up for school and because of school i can read and because i can read i have been able to accomplish so many things .
Im Thankful
December 20, 2022 at 1:57 pm #412220AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
I am so pleased that you chose to share more than you did in a long time. I want to read your recent post thoroughly and reply when my brain is not as sleepy as it is now (I woke up way too early this morning!). I am just about to take my daily walk and then try to get downtown.. so better that I am back to your thread Wed morning. I hope that you have a pleasant afternoon!
anita
December 21, 2022 at 3:05 am #412250AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
I’m up early again 5:58am( only because I have to workout before I wake my son up for school)
I just completed day 4 of my daily workout. After 2 minutes on the bike I had to out loud remind myself why I was working as hard as I was to get to 10 minutes.
December 21, 2022 at 4:50 am #412252AnonymousInactiveDear Anita ,
Your daily walk is such a motivation ! How long have you been doing it ? What do you do when there is bad weather (rain or snow)?
December 21, 2022 at 11:16 am #412258AnonymousGuestDear I am Building a Healthy Routine:
“Your daily walk is such a motivation! How long have you been doing it? What do you do when there is bad weather (rain or snow)?“- thank you and yes, I walked every single day through any and every kind of weather, including rain, windstorms, lightning, snow and ice, (And for that, I am a legend in these parts where I live.. if I may say so), since February 2014 when I moved here.
* In the winter of 2020, I think it was, I slipped and fell on ice during the last part of my walk and lost consciousness as a result. From that day onward, when it is icy outside- I walk on the treadmill instead. I can’t stress enough how dangerous it is to walk on ice, a bad idea!
In your post before last, you researched and examined the origin of your commitment issues: “As a child I didn’t see anything I wanted to keep… Growing up, I thought my mom or family didn’t love me“- as a child, you didn’t feel valuable enough to be loved, so you didn’t see a reason to have or keep anything of value.
“My mother did her best ( because I’m doing my best and it’s not easy, she had three little ones, I have one), but now I’m noticing, the more I educate myself, I’m understanding why my childhood was so hard, my mom was a young single mom”- your empathy and love for your mother is very evident here. You love her now, you always loved her.
“Her and our family complimented my younger sister about her beauty and accomplishments, and I don’t think I did well in school, and I had darker skin, I was chubbier than her, I also ate more and (had) curly short hair. (Now my looks are considered beautiful)“-
– I am well aware of the dark skin/ light skin, curly hair/ straight hair prejudices, in particular within the African-American community- because I worked for years in a public school district in the U.S. It is a real and terrible prejudice. I’ve seen girls in middle and high schools made fun of (in their presence or outside their presence) for no other reason than for having dark skin and/ or curly hair.
The origin of this prejudice is in the promotion- by white people with straight hair- that white skin and straight hair are superior. With the development of technology and media, this same promotion took place on a very large scale. (If to begin with, there was the opposite prejudice and promotion, it would have been people with white skin and straight hair who would have felt inferior).
* It is not surprising and very unfortunate that the unnecessary and harmful practices of straightening hair and bleaching skin, using dangerous chemicals, takes place in the U.S. and in other parts of the world.
It is a very good thing that in more recent history, darker skin and curly hair are promoted- in the media- as beautiful. More and more people need to believe that no one is ugly because of their skin color or hair texture, or because of any other physical feature.
In regard to body weight, being significantly overweight is dangerous to one’s health, so it should not be promoted; on the other hand, extreme thinness should not be promoted either because it is unhealthy to be significantly underweight, and it is dangerous to go to extreme methods of losing weight. It is a very good thing to promote- in the media- a healthy female body that is not thin as beautiful!
“I wish I was a more supportive daughter.. I still wish I could have been a better daughter“- I can see guilt here, on your part, guilt without a valid reason. Think of this: how can a girl who emotionally needs to be taken care of, how can she emotionally take care of her mother? Try to not confuse the roles: she was your mother, you were her daughter. The daughter needs to receive from the mother, not the other way around.
“Because of it all, I’m a better sister and a better mom. I wish I could thank my mom, she is the person who signed me up for school and because of school I can read and because I can read I have been able to accomplish so many things. I’m Thankful”-
-you are a good person, a good mother, a good sister, and a good daughter. I know that your mother has passed, and I know that if any part of her is looking at you through my mind’s eyes, I know that she knows that you appreciate her and love her very much, and that she is proud of you, and thankful to have you as her daughter!
anita
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