September 6, 2022 at 1:44 am #406675
sometimes i am able to do so (living in the moment) and yesterday i experienced such a moment,
it felt really good.
I know all we can do is live in the moment but most of the times we’re not really present and wander of with our minds to
future or past isn’t that so?
I was wondering why sometimes it happens just like that without any afford,
anyone has any experience on how to reach and maintain such a state?
best regards and have a blessed day!September 6, 2022 at 2:16 am #406677
I’m glad that you had a good experience living in the moment.
Meditation helped me develop this skill. I also practice gratitude. This helps me to appreciate what I experience in a day. Relaxation can be helpful too. I feel like stress can be a factor that encourages us to yearn for things to be different.
Perhaps being comfortable in your own skin helps too? I used to be caught up in my thoughts when I wasn’t comfortable with who I am as a person. Or didn’t feel as capable in coping with challenges in life. Practicing self-compassion and developing boundaries helped me with that. Challenging avoidant behaviours helped me to grow, develop skills and confidence.
Do any of these experiences resonate with you?
I hope you have a wonderful day too! 🙏September 6, 2022 at 2:42 am #406678
Thanx for your reply Helcat,
some of the things you mention definitly resonate with me,
developing boundaries, graditude, relaxation, coping.
Still working on challenging avoidant behaviours, half way there i guess (:-) )
also being Alone in the comfort of my own house is important to me.
I notice when people are around i often feel uncomfortable,
used to think that was me but as i have been growing i now think i pick up some
vibes of others , wich make feel that way.
So this for sure also played a role in my state yesterday, still in it by the way(!)September 6, 2022 at 8:19 am #406682
“I know all we can do is live in the moment but most of the times we’re not really present and wander off with our minds to future or past isn’t that so?“- yes.
I was wondering why sometimes it happens just like that without any effort“- you may be asking why it happens that our minds effortlessly drift from the now to the future or past, or why it happens that we can live in the moment sometimes without any effort and at other times, we can’t. I’ll answer both questions from my experience:
My mind effortlessly drifts to the past and future because of either one or a combination of the following: (1) my mind is in the habit of drifting to the past or future, and habits are strong forces, (2) I seek something- or someone- that does not exist in the present time and place, such as excitement, relief, pleasure, an opportunity to resolve conflict with someone, an opportunity to spend time with someone who will care to listen to me, to understand me, etc., (3) something feels wrong (anxiety, worry, or some kind of pain), so I am looking for the source of the feeling in the past, and solution- in the future.
Sometimes I find myself effortlessly living in the present time and place because I hear a loud noise and attend to it, or I see an amazing sight and attend to it, or I forget about myself and focus on what someone is saying, or I focus on a certain task, like typing these words for you.
“Anyone has any experience on how to reach and maintain such a state?“- yes, figuratively speaking, take the elevator down from your mind (your thinking brain) to your body (your sensing body): from your mind to your ears (listen to the sounds around you), to your eyes (see the images around you), to your skin (sense the feel of the computer keys on your fingers as you type), to your nose (feel the air going through your nose, its hotness or coldness, the smell of it), and/ or to your mouth (feel the warmth of it, the feel of your tongue, taste).
Whenever you drift away from the present (the elevator has gone up and back to your thinking brain) and you want to return to the present… you know what to do.
“I notice when people are around, I often feel uncomfortable…“- because you feel threatened by people perhaps, alert to some danger (?) Most of my discomfort around people was about fearing criticism or ridicule or disrespect in some other way.
anitaSeptember 6, 2022 at 3:31 pm #406687
thx for your reply,
i still got it, let’s hope i don’t drift away and am able took keep the elevayor down.
The answer abt. maintaining this state is really helpfull.
Abt. the uncomfortable feeling when being with other people in my own home, i guess
it has more to do with the energy they bring along . . .September 6, 2022 at 3:52 pm #406688
You are welcome and thank you for the note back. Anytime you want to talk about living in the Now, aka being Mindful, about the energy people bring along or any other topic, please post and I will be glad to reply.
anitaSeptember 7, 2022 at 1:23 am #406697
It is certainly a journey!
I know what you mean about picking up the vibes of others.
I think this can change when you focus more on yourself.
For example, my coworker was acting odd and it triggered anxiety in myself. My thoughts jumped to what if I did something to upset her and she was behaving this way because of me.
Turns out, it was completely unrelated to me. She was experiencing difficulties in her home life. A few days later her behaviour returned to normal.
To do my job, I needed to ignore my coworker’s behaviour and focus on what I was doing. You pick up less of other’s vibes this way.September 7, 2022 at 1:30 am #406698
You mentioned that you feel uncomfortable, I’m curious how your thoughts react to the vibes of others?September 9, 2022 at 5:41 am #406844
to be honest it’s not very thought related but if i do think abt it …
it might have something to do with the fact that i’ve been alone for a long period in time ,
let’s say the past 3 years , i can imagine i just have gotten used again to more social interaction and
i changed , so maybe now i am able to pick up vibes better or translate them anyway.
And i do think i can point the energy, but sometimes it’s me …
Im having some minor adjusting problems i guess, wich is not strange considering what i’ve been through but thats another story, for another time…September 12, 2022 at 11:30 am #406893
How is your Living In The NOW today?
anitaSeptember 14, 2022 at 7:52 am #406938
It makes sense that you are experiencing some minor adjustment issues after being alone for a long time. It is good to hear that you are getting used to social interaction again.
If you would like to share your story at some point, I’d be happy to listen.
Wishing you all the best! 🙏September 16, 2022 at 2:09 pm #407028PeterParticipant
I was wondering why sometimes it happens just like that without any effort, anyone has any experience on how to reach and maintain such a state?
Ah to be the still point that is also dancing.
Its a paradox. The moment we ask the question we are out of the moment. The moment we realize were in the experience we are tossed out of it. The moment we try is the moment we fail.
Their is not try only be. A exercise of Will that is a letting go of Will, a surrender of expectations, desire, thought.