April 5, 2020 at 10:23 pm #347864GraceParticipant
Hello, I hope everyone reading this is healthy and safe rn. Im sure I’m not the only person feeling this during quarantine but I’ve become really lonely. I think the lack of the everyday distractions has really put a spotlight on this area of my life. Like I’d usually jokingly say that I’m lonely af or single af but now that is 100% accurate. I luckily have a family who loves me and friends but not the kind who text to see what’s going on, and for some reason I’m very hesitant to dish on my personal problems, in the past I was labeled as an attention whore, so that kind of made me self conscious about going to my friends for advice. I find that I’ll just sit and cry about issues and I have this urge to rant or ask for advice to someone but often I never can. I feel like my friends would just judge and think poorly on my family if I told them stuff or me even. I just feel like I’m lacking like a significant other to like go with stuff like this. I feel kind of empty like I literally can’t go to anyone and of course TB helps but certain things are just too much to explain. I don’t know really. I just have this desire to have someone who like loves me and who wouldn’t label me an attention whore and who just genuinely wants to help and be there for me?! I’m really not sure what to do especially now… help/tips/advice??April 6, 2020 at 5:04 am #347892InkyParticipant
The person who called you an attention whore, probably got their azz handed to them when THEY wanted/needed attention. So naturally they will resent anyone else who dares (!) to ask for it. It was probably that one person, that one time.
The next time you are afraid of being an attention whore, program yourself to think of “It’s Just That Guy” complete with an eyeroll.
People don’t text you because they are afraid of texting. Most people think, “Sure, I’m a casual friend, but am I Pandemic Worthy?” Trust me when I say: You are Pandemic Worthy! Make a list of people to check on. Believe me when I say that they will be touched and thrilled that someone is thinking of THEM! Yes, they think of you too, but they themselves don’t think they are Pandemic Worthy either. Self appoint yourself as the Pandemic Leader. No one else is. Everyone else is sheltered in. Girl, I don’t even Zoom, that’s how isolated this has naturally made me.
A lot (A LOT!) of singles are in the same boat.
Stay Healthy, Stay Safe,
InkyApril 6, 2020 at 2:37 pm #347986GraceParticipant
Wow, I’ve made a couple posts on this site, and this has been the best real advice I’ve gotten. Thank you so much. These are really crazy times and I’m so thankful for a site like this. Sending good health and safety. Thank you again!