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  • #350650
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    Not sure yet but probably like marketing management

    #349114
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    Do you think I owe him friendship after all the ghosting and coming in and out of my life? Like if he came back and texted like what should I do? Should I give him another chance at the cost of looking possibly desperate and lonely? Should I just never respond? Or should I kind of tell him off? Like I’m not sure how to continue on.

    #347986
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    Wow, I’ve made a couple posts on this site, and this has been the best real advice I’ve gotten. Thank you so much. These are really crazy times and I’m so thankful for a site like this. Sending good health and safety. Thank you again!

    #326337
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    There could be Im not sure what the connection does to my though. I think if anything my parent’s dating has served as an example for what to watch out for/ look for & etc

    #326243
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    I definitely have become more outgoing than where I was as a kid, but I still take a while to warm up to people. It is kind of frustrating because I seem to attract a certain type that I just do not see myself ever going out with, I get frustrated because my options are not what I want in someone. I’m sure its not just me but that seems to be what I’m getting rn, I used to get flirty interactions with people I actually liked but I think one person misread where I was at and kind of took advantage and I think I just sectioned myself off and started dressing more baggy/ frumpy to not draw attention to my body, which honestly I regret that I did that to myself. Recently though I’ve wanted to dress cuter for school but now that people see me in leggings and a hoodie all the time it draws attention to my body that I’m not 100% happy with. I just want to take care of myself and put myself out there more. And that guy it was a just talking kind of thing, like we were flirting back and forth and told each other our feelings and he got more with benefits on me and I was uncomfortable with that. I am trying to kinda get back out there relationship wise and friend wise because I have secluded myself unfortunately. I think I have fun with new people naturally and make a good impression but when it comes to like romantic stuff I’m cool over text and call but in person I work myself up and kind of freak out and panic.

    #321981
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    1. At my moms house its me, my mom, and her fiance

    2. She just moved out to an apartment, she tells me that I still have time to lose weight before shopping for my dress for my moms wedding. I see her couple times a week.

    3. I didn’t go to school friday because I woke up extremely sad and stressed. I was getting in my car crying from all the stress I had and my mom was like just stay home, and I tried talking to her but she didn’t really like get it, she kinda made it seem like I was stressed like any other day.

    #321975
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    Its gotten better, its just sometimes they are just so stressed from work that I suppress my feelings to enjoy the moment, and not turn it into some depressing convo that would end up with me crying, I just feel so overwhelmed with my own feelings that i have bottled up, and then I have a crap ton of work to do, And no one to talk to. Im just not sure what I can or should do. As for my grandma, she is just always going to be critical, and I think thats something I resent her for.

    #214489
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    Thanks for all of the good advice! Where I said i had only flirted with like 3 guys, and that it didn’t go so well. Nothing intimate really happened, just kind of goofing off, just like flirting when talking. One of them was this constant on and off thing but i see it as toxic and want better for myself. The other guy was this guy that I didn’t really have interest in but he had interest in me. Then guy 3 was kind of like this person i was always annoyed by since 6th grade, it was playful teasing, then last year i switched into his class he and i immediately connected and it was crazy we couldn’t stop texting and then the first guy kinda barged his way into my life and i lost touch with 3. This all happened last year but, I guess Im at this point where I don’t get any action. Like it seems like everytime theres a guy in my life theres a problem. Nothing seems to go right, so right now I guess im feeling kinda screwed over by love, lol. And i know, i dont want to force my way into some guy. I guess im wondering why i attract bad situations with guys, and how to put myself out there? How to flirt and not seem utterly ridiculous?

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    #209791
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    I think you made the right call. Shes now in a peaceful state and she can relax. She was in pain from what you described. If the vet followed up with your call to put her down, then that means they agreed too. Don’t think of it in a bad way, the only thing you can do now is moving forward, and carry her in your heart from now on. Dogs are very loyal, and she will always be yours. Maybe in the future, you can get a dog from a shelter that you can comfort and take care of in honor of your recently lost dog. Hope this helps, and I understand the pain of losing a dog. You just have to pick yourself up and keep going, because that’s what they loved seeing you do every day!

    #209783
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    I’m well aware that people go through much harder things than me. Just reading some of the titles of some of these forums makes it seem like my problems are the equivalent to a bruised banana. But i just seem to fake moving past things i can’t seem to shake these things. They all have a toll on my life. They’re holding me back and I’m a pretty happy person but when I’m up late or by myself i just can’t help but think about these things and feel sad about my parents and their relationships, letting a new boyfriend or girlfriend of theirs in and them being there and then 5 months later not. Or my cousin, I can’t even talk about him, i just cry, it just devastates me. Or just like with this guy that ive always been drawn to even though the ass grabbing should’ve been a red flag. Just recently my dad was arrested for a DUI. i mean im not mad at him, i kinda make fun of it with him. But i mean all this happens to me and i just get overwhelmed. My friends and i have a group chat, in the past ive tried to consult them about stuff because im a social and open person, and all i wanted was advice or someone to listen to, in the end, i was just called an attention wh*re. So this guy Tom who ive just always been drawn to was like the only guy ive liked for the most part, and he was like the only one who listened to me and given me advice. It’s hard to try and let him go. I don’t and won’t trust my main friends because they just seem to be drifting apart. This guy tom is the only one ive been 100% open with, i told him about the dui, my cousin, how i feel about everything, even my mom trying to IVF with her now ex-boyfriend, ive just told him a lot. And its like thats why i didnt feel as violated as i probably should’ve felt last year. i just cling on to things. i feel overwhelmed for a 16 year old to go through these things. i just want to be clear im not contemplating suicide, and never will. as i said i am a social butterfly and a generally happy person. i just feel overwhelmed with no one to talk to so im happy i found this place.

    #206689
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    How should I move on from him? Sometimes I worry I should keep him around because he knows everything about me that I’ve never told anyone. I’m paranoid he’ll tell people. But he’s such a sweetheart, and we were such good friends, every time I’m not around/ friends with him I can’t help but miss him. He helped me when my house flooded, like who does that? Its gonna suck, but like what did the rose mean? does he miss me, was he messing with me? Just that night he threw me the rose, it brought back feelings I spent months forgetting.

    #206681
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    Yea that’s a really good point. Wow, thank you so much.

    #206601
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    Ugh, THANK YOU. ok, this is just what I needed to read. I’m honestly kind of mad because it is like why do u give someone a rose and not act on it? We have history and stuff together, so I’m kinda pissed. Like if he would have done something to make it clear what his intentions were I would be more enthusiastic to deal with this. It just threw me off quite a bit… I think its just one of those things where I just need to date myself for a while. It just gets kinda lonely, all of my friends are all in relationships, so I think I kinda force myself into something with him just to feel with someone, plus we were really good friends.

    #205851
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    Thank you inky

    I agree it’s just hard to let go of a first major crush..

    sometimes I wish it worked out for the better, but that’s life.

    #205783
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    -Anita

    Wow, I think you’re right, I am confused about what the Rose meant, I haven’t talked to him for months, but I’ve seen him around school. It’s kind of awkward, but I get through it. I mean he replied and it was a nice conversation. But like should I just get on with my life, I feel like everytime I like him, it’s for no reason. But I really just liked our friendship. I just feel like I can’t be friends with him because everytime I reconnect, I start to fall into a huge crush.

     

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