November 5, 2014 at 6:49 pm #67396LexceeParticipant
I thought I had it all planned out.
I would go to school, get perfect marks, go to college, major in English, and become an amazing writer.
Now I’m not even finished with the first semester, and its like my drive is gone. I’m failing two classes, dangerously close to failing another, and passing the last. It continuasly stresses me out how horrible I’m doing and I just don’t know how to cope. Ive lost my motivation to suceed, and I frequently don’t do my work. And no matter how hard I try I just lapse back. I don’t know how I’m going to pass, and with the continuous weight of my parents expectations on my head. I feel like I’m going to crack open at any moment.
I just don’t know where elsebto turn, because ive already told everyone I know, and they do nothing.November 6, 2014 at 7:10 am #67428AnonymousInactive
Have you tried getting a tutor to help pass your classes or meeting with an academic advisor? If that doesn’t work, maybe you could transfer to a community college. That’s what I did.November 16, 2014 at 6:49 pm #67952BenzRabbitParticipant
Most times there is an event that triggers such loss of drive !
Something has happened to you or around you – you are the only person that can figure out what that is !!
Also, perfectionism caused by high expectations from parents can be a very heavy burden. Please read this short article – it will help:
Don’t worry about the future – life always works itself out !
GOD Bless !!November 21, 2014 at 2:14 am #68187Yatin KhulbeParticipant
As a friend, I would suggest that don’t overstress yourself and look it as a phase only. Have confidence in yourself and don’t let your inner pull go away from you because it will fuel your future directions. After crossing this rough phase, you will learn something great about yourself. Have a great life ahead.November 21, 2014 at 9:33 am #68203VhanonParticipant
“I just don’t know where elsebto turn, because ive already told everyone I know, and they do nothing.”
They are there and wait. They will applaud you when you suceed and will read your novel when you’ll become a writer. Maybe you can talk to them about what you learn each day. Maybe you can talk to them about the last novel you read or the last story you wrote. Isn’t there a writer forum on the internet? Maybe you can read about the life of some modern writer you like, so you can see what kind of life you may have ahead of you. Why did you want to become a writer?
Success is not easy and the road is long. Please appreciate the little things you see along the way, talk with your friend and family, stop and buy an ice-cream from time to time, set up milestones and give yourself a prize when you reach them.November 21, 2014 at 10:10 am #68210JadeParticipant
“Perfection is the enemy of greatness”
I was like you when I was younger, I had it all figured out… get awesome marks in school, get into a prestigious uni, ace the MCAT and get into med school, become a doctor and get married and live happily ever after.
It’s funny how plans don’t work out, and how you’re better off for not having fulfilled your childhood plans. Turns out, I didn’t actually want to be a doctor, despite telling people it was what I wanted to do since I was 8 years old, despite the fact that I loved science. My spirits were crushed under the expectations of others and the fact that I was not following my own heart, and I ended up tanking my marks and dropping out of uni, taking a completely different path instead after that.
My advice: relish in failure. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but honestly my fear of failure and my obsession for perfect everything has been my ultimate barrier to happiness. It’s only in the crucible of struggle do we truly find out who we are and what we are meant to be.
(Personally, I found that school/formal education is the number one way to have my passion for a subject sucked right out of me. Maybe you’re the same and need a different avenue to pursue what you love. Explore your options!)November 22, 2014 at 9:07 am #68240beloveParticipant
How about shifting your focus for a little while? When you’re dragged down by the stress of homework and passing the classes, it might be hard to see other potentials. Take a little break. How about hanging in there with just 1 class? It can help lessen your stress and allow you to think more clearly. I’ve found from my experience, that when I was overwhelmed with too many things, I minimized my obligations and it helped. Once you feel like you can carry a certain weight without much effort, you build up your strength, your courage to carry more. It’s like training for any sports. You build up slowly. What it takes is momentum and strength to keep showing up. Slowly, but surely, you’ll gain ground on it.
With much love and warmth.