Hey Its Jess,

Is a life worth living based on days or months of being “unproductive” ?

Can you really say what is a “wasted” day?

I suggest you reframe what makes a good day worth living.  If you look back on your entire life or another person’s life, I bet you can point to events and activities that may have looked like a waste of time but it was valuable later on in your life.

Nobody really knows what things you have done that make up a “good life” at the end.

Check out Steve Jobs’ Stanford commencement speech where he tells the graduates how his calligraphy class paid off in the design of the Macintosh.

Mark

Dear Hey Its Jess:

We can’t make up for lost time. Would be nice if we could. I can’t. No one can, not a single living thing.

I wonder what could these “‘life altering’ mistakes” be, for you…?

anita

Dear Hey its Jess:

You are welcome. It just so happens that I answered another thread, just before yours, and wrote there about lost time: “It is not the exception, I  learned, to waste most of one’s life. It is the rule…All you can do is learn from your experience, so to waste less of your day and future. Waste is the norm, wise living is the exception. Make your life today and every day going forward less and less of that norm”.

If you accept waste to be the norm, waste which includes making mistakes and suffering the consequences of those mistakes, then you wouldn’t be desperate to make up for those mistakes and the lost or wasted time. Not feeling desperate will allow the calm that you need so to make better choices today and every day and live a life less and less wasteful.

anita

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The moments when we feel down can also remind us of how much we want to improve ourselves. If you hadn’t had these days of “waste” would you know how much you want to improve your life? It sounds like to me that you are a very resilient. I will echo calling someone/reaching out for professional support is a great idea. The ability to ask for help is also not easy, but it is a sign of strength and resilience.

Maybe asking your self – what keeps me going? will provide some exciting answers 🙂

It’s sounds like you expect too much of yourself.

Please don’t ignore these thoughts you have about yourself. Just trying to think positive isn’t the answer. Life is about experiencing the dark and the light, so explore these thoughts you have. Where does this feeling of uselessness come from?

Also, a lot of people mistake failure and something as being a failure as a person. Failing does not make us a failure.

The past is done, it cannot be changed. I spent years hating myself and beating myself up over the past. I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t do that any more and I refuse to live my life with regrets. Be kinder to yourself. What would you say to someone you love or care about if they came to you with your problem?