March 10, 2016 at 11:43 am #98556AthenlyRainParticipant
People would definitely judge me if they knew that I very strongly dislike babies.
People would definitely judge me if they knew that I’d rather go to a funeral than a wedding.March 10, 2016 at 12:05 pm #98557
What is your motivation in posting the above? What is it that you need or want in this posting?
anitaMarch 10, 2016 at 2:18 pm #98562ErisParticipant
I feel neutral about your baby dislike – they aren’t for everyone.
the wedding/funeral thing i’d need more clarification on before I judged you (because we all do it lol) – is it a strangers or a loved ones?March 10, 2016 at 3:10 pm #98568Grace FurmanParticipant
I strongly dislike babies too. You’re not the only one. 🙂March 10, 2016 at 7:35 pm #98596tinybuddhaKeymaster
@anita This is a challenge from Tiny Buddha’s 365 Tiny Love Challenges. (This section of the forums is dedicated to discussing/completing the challenges from the book.)
In case you’re curious, the challenge reads:
Complete the writing prompt below. Then share this with someone, in real life or online at http://tinybuddha.com/love-forums, to help you work through your shame and break through the fear of how others will perceive this.
People would definitely judge me if they know that I…March 10, 2016 at 7:46 pm #98597
* Thank you, tinybuddha. The purpose is to open the prompt topic for any kind of discussion? What would be an appropriate reply here to a prompt from the Tiny Love Challenges?
anitaMarch 10, 2016 at 7:55 pm #98598Lori DescheneKeymaster
Hi @Anita. I just realized I didn’t comment through my personal account. This particular challenge is from the month related to authenticity. The purpose is simply to share things we may feel ashamed about so that we’re better able to be authentic with each other. Perhaps you could reply by doing the challenge yourself, if you’d like!March 10, 2016 at 8:09 pm #98602
* Dear Lori Deschene:
I think I get it. Thank you again! I will try right here and I hope I will be doing it right (feel free to correct me if I am not getting it)
People would definitely judge me if they knew that I (this is tough!) … I can’t do it.
AtentlyRain, you are courageous for starting this thread with this prompt! I am humbled. I would like to follow your example tomorrow when I hope to be more courageous!
anitaMarch 10, 2016 at 9:04 pm #98629Lori DescheneKeymaster
You’re welcome! =)March 11, 2016 at 7:00 am #98663
Back to the challenge, the prompt: I stopped yesterday because I got scared, right after “People would …judge me” That thought scared me, so I wrote “this is tough” and stopped. What scared me was not the ending of the sentence that I was to come up with, but the beginning: that people judge me.
I am scared that people judge me, (that is think in their brain that I am wrong, unacceptable, not okay…negatively criticize me) because in my mind, if they judge me, they will hurt me. And I am scared to be hurt, to feel pain, pain I imagine others will purposefully inflict on me if they judge me.
The list of things to come at the end of the prompt is endless, literally endless as I have decades of years of daily self judgment: I am my own judge. Almost anything I think is a subject to my own judgment, anything I do- or fail to do…anything I feel or fail to feel… anything another may wrongly imagine I think or feel…
As to your own exercise above, about disliking babies, I have a lot to say about that from personal experience, thinking and feeling that would fit the end of the prompt-sentence. I will share it with you if you come back to your thread, anytime you come back and post again, asking me to indeed share with you about my experience regarding disliking babies.
I very much hope that you come back, and thank you for doing the challenge here. You exercised courage and I am humbled and impressed by your courage!
anitaMarch 11, 2016 at 3:48 pm #98738AthenlyRainParticipant
Aww, thanks. 🙂 It was actually really difficult for me to do this challenge, but I figured I had nothing to lose.
As for disliking babies, I know why I dislike them. I have a fear of them… they scare me a lot. I know if I had a baby right now, it would tip my world upside-down in a very bad way. Plus I don’t know how to interact with babies, so that hinders my baby thing as well. And I generally just don’t like them, mainly because of that.
Thanks you for your wonderful response!
AthenlyRainMarch 11, 2016 at 5:28 pm #98760
I am so glad to see you are back! I was wondering if it was too scary for you to come back, but you are back! Double the courage: initiating the prompt/thread and following through!
I am relieved you didn’t ask me to share about my experience regarding my feelings about babies: it was not going to be pleasant for me but I would have if I thought it was going to be helpful to you.
Thank you for sharing why you dislike babies, there is always a valid message in any feeling we have and I am glad you are listening to the message. When we do that, feelings guide us so that we can operate to benefit our own well being.
I hope you post again, on this thread or on another, maybe with another Tiny Love Challenge Prompt!
anitaOctober 3, 2016 at 1:47 pm #117078LucindaParticipant
People would definitely judge me…..If they knew that at age 47 I still struggle with my sexuality. I’m married to a man, but I no longer desire to be. A woman currently holds my heart from afar. Thus, I feel that I can not simply Be….October 3, 2016 at 1:56 pm #117082
Glad you executed the Tiny Love Challenge Prompt here. I do not judge you for your desires, whatever they are, sexual and otherwise. “The heart wants what the heart wants.”