Hello everyone! I created an account to reply on this. I, too have experienced this recently. He was my first boyfriend and I want him to be my last but life got in the way. His parents and mine are very good friends and I can say that until now, my mother and his tends to be “bestfriends.” Our love story is “too good to be true” for two years but when we’re in a long distance relationship, things fall apart. He cheated on me but like you, I tend to see the good in people. I can see that he’s very happy with her they even spent their third monthsary this month even if we broke up just this January. I know it’s too dumb and silly to think that I still want to be with him but I’m not bothering him since then. I unfriended and unfollowed him and never texted him as well but I’m planning to message him in the future. What if there’s something that’s telling you that he really is “the one?” I re-read his messages and I really felt like he truly loves me but he also needed someone to be right there for him physically that’s why he cheated on me. Is there any chance that he will choose me if ever they break up and I’ll ask him to try again or should I just stop? Please help me decide. Thank you.

Hey, it sucks to say that I can relate so much with all these stories, however, it is somewhat nice to see that I am not alone in this. So a while ago while I was in high school one of my classmates kind of suddenly fell in love with me. We were barely friends and after a few weeks that school started he started telling me that he had feelings for me. At the time I had no interest in dating him so I just honestly friend-zoned him as much as I could without hurting his feelings. After a while I started catching feelings for him too, and as he realized that he just tried harder and harder to get me date him until we finally kissed during a school trip and started dating soon after. Our relationship was perfect for the first two years,  we were very happy and he was honestly a really good boyfriend. After we graduated high school we went to college in the same town, same as most of our friends and thing started getting weird. He had a best friend ever since he was a child and I had never felt jealous of her until one day I felt they were getting too close. I would constantly ask him if he had feelings for her and he would laugh at me and sometimes even make me feel like I was crazy, he would constantly tell me she was like a sister to him and that I was just being crazy. We had many fights because of that since they would text so much (although at the time she did not live in the same town we did). One day she came to visit and rumors started spreading around that they had kissed at a party. I was heartbroken and ended things with him immediately. Next thing I knew they were both denying it and making me feel crazy, she even told me that she was in love with someone else and that my boyfriend was like a brother to her and all he did was help her with her own emotional issues. After that incident I asked him to stop talking to her which was easy since she lived in another city. A year passed and our relationship got crappy, I was always very insecure around him and anytime I said anything he would make me feel like I was crazy. One day he came to my house and told me that he had started speaking to her again and that they were friends again, that day was the last drop. I broke up with him and did not speak to him for a week, I ignored his texts and calls until one day when I was feeling better I decided to call him back. When we finally got to speak all he would say was that he did not love me anymore and did not care about me anymore, he claimed that during that week that I did not speak to him he realized that he had absolutely no feelings for me. My first thought was that he had started dating her, however, everyone in our lives (him included) would deny that that would even be possible. Months passed until one day a friend of ours told me that they were actually dating and that they had been dating ever since we broke up. I then realized that not only had he lied to me for at least a year of our relationship but also that he had cheated on me with her multiple times both physically and emotionally. I was devastated, but things were even worse when she decided to move to the city him and I lived at. Its honestly a torture, she is now going to the same school that I am and since she is also friends with my friends I have to see her or hear about her and him all the time. I feel betrayed by my boyfriend of 4 years and even my friends that just decided to ignore the fact that they cheated on me and kept on being friends with her anyways. Its been a while since that happened, but I struggle so so much with it. I cant believe no one stood up for me, I can’t believe they did that to me, I cant believe I wasted 4 years of my life in a fake relationship. I have to see them almost everywhere. They know how bad they hurt me and it seems like that is a turn on for them. If I suffer, they’re happy and powerful. I can’t stand how happy they are together, how much his family likes her and how little my friends care about what happened. Can life really be this unfair? I used to believe in karma so much and thought that if he cheated on me chances were he would probably cheat on her as well, but it just seems like he miraculously changed for her. Do you guys have any advice or some words of wisdom for me? I can’t deal with how unfair things have been, they were awful but couldnt be happier about it, and I am, on the other hand miserable.

…I am only 16 turning 17 in January. I still have a long life ahead of me for more relationships. I fell in love with a guy I met when I was 14. People criticize me saying “whatever your young that wasn’t love” etc but I really loved him and still do. He was my first so I feel more connected with him than any other guy. He made me smile and feel like I was good enough for once even after dating guys that were emotional abusive etc. I understand young people will go through relationships off and on breaks can be necessary for people to evaluate themselves and understand what they truly desire. I to put to much investment and love in a person…I to try to see the good in people but he was different then the rest of them I didn’t see anything wrong he was honest and he never abused me and I felt a tingling sensation in my stomach like butterflies were dancing when ever I touched him or he touched me. So we dated off an on for about 3 years a few months ago I had a harsh reality. It all started with pot. Pot was another way for us to relax and laugh etc but compared to me he seemed much more interested in pot. One day after he picked me up from school he told me the night before he hung out with this girl. I am not the type of girl who get judgement and angry off the bat in fact I just asked normal questions. I asked How do you know her? His reply “I didn’t I posted a who wants to smoke pot on the whisper app and she commented I didn’t know it was a she until she called me when she was on her way to my house” then I asked well what y’all do? His answer was oh we just smoked weed and watch movies until 6 AM in the morning” The conversation was starting to startle me! Like who just randomly meets someone to hang out for more than 5 hours at night? But I didn’t show my worry. I then asked when did she come over last night he responded with oh around 11 right after you said goodnight to me” Hmmm I asked was she cute he responded with yup cute mixed girl but don’t worry nothing happened then a week later my mom caught him over at my house alone she was not happy especially with the fact that she found pot in my room that was his. After he left my phone was taken away for awhile but I used friends phones to stay in connect with him….little by little he kept showing odd signs of guilt and then finally one day he broke up with me the way he did it made me question. He was high and he whispered looking to the ground I think we need a break. I said ok and of course he included that he wanted to still be friends. Two weeks later I still don’t have my phone and I am still pondering over that day I continue to find him trying to contact me through 1. My friend 2. My instagram He would start of with saying “Hey” I would reply with what do you want and he wouldn’t talk for awhile until saying nothing much just seeing what you were up to” His little texts were giving me more confused emotions then it all came together. My friend came to school asked me how much I cared about him and before I answered my friend told me that my ex was hanging out with him smoking pot and told him that he cheated on me and now has a girlfriend(The girl he cheated on me with). I cried so much I was so unhappy it all made since I felt betrayed. My friend then asked my ex that night why he didn’t tell me and my ex replied with “I want to keep my options open”? What does it mean he wants to keep his options open? Is it good he showed signs of guilt(some guys really don’t)? Do you think he will try and get me back? Why does everyone considered a person that cheats to be horrible for the rest of their life. I don’t believe that. What can I do to not seem like I want him so badly. How can I stop caring or move on?

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I’ve been feeling the worst I have ever felt in my life and wanted to reach out to see if you could help me at all.. I don’t have many to turn to. I was in a 3 year relationship with the person I thought I would marry. We hardly fought and I helped him through a hard time in his life( he was getting over a divorce). Going through a divorce is hard and He told me that there had been cheating by his ex and that how badly she treated him. He seemed very kind and genuine so I helped with whatever I could financially and as a supportive girlfriend. And although I knew he didn’t have much he helped me see the world differently through different religions mainly Hindu and yoga. I loved learning all the new things and everything seemed to workout perfect. In my eyes we were very happy throughout our relationship but one day he got a call from his ex wife saying she couldn’t take it anymore and she was giving him full custody of their son. He was so happy about this news but had to move with his mom since he had no family to help him other than myself and we worked the same shift at our jobs. His mom lives 3 hours away. We decided that we would attempt a long distance relationship. But in the months of him going back in forth getting ready for the move his seemed different distant and I confronted him about it and he said it was just stress about having his whole life turned up side down. I tried to help with the move even though I was heartbroken that he was leaving but in the 2 months he took moving he was distant while he was at his moms. He finally moved and would hardly talk to me and I was distraught. I was having such a hard time with him leaving and he seemed to be to busy and having the greatest time in Fresno. I confronted him again. And this time he said it would be best if we broke up but remained friends because he was sad how much I was hurting … I was blindsided since This was the person that was my best friend and we seemed so perfect for each other. I begged him to reconsider but he didn’t budge. Throughout the month he continued to talk to me as if nothing happened and asking me how it was going but I was so hurt I kept things short. One night he called me and we had a friendly conversation but then he calles me a few minutes it sounded as if he was crying and he was saying how much he missed me and wished he could see me .. I cried as well thinking this is the man I knew for 3 years… we made plans to see each other the coming Saturday ( phone call was on Thursday) . But Friday came and he said he was very sorry but he had to cancel because of work. I was sad but understood. That Saturday morning I got a alert from my Paypal saying I had booked an AirBNB. I downloaded the app since we had a joint account to make sure there was no fraud. He had booked an AirBNB for the same day he cancelled on me for him and his gf.. I immediately text him and asked him if he had a gf and he took a while to reply but said “I’m sorry”. I did not know how to react. I asked so many questions with hardly any answers and told him I hated him. The next days he kept trying to contact me saying it wasn’t what I thought but I did not reply. I shipped everything he had given to me to his house and did not answer his texts. I finally caved hoping it really wasn’t true but he told me he met a girl that was way out of his league and they liked the same stuff but he swore he didn’t talk to her anymore. I loved him so much I kept replying to his messages hoping there would be a way to make up. But he was so off and on and it led to anxiety and panic attacks from me where I would text “I can’t believe you would ruin what we had” and such texts during these panic attacks. He still seemed very sorry until a month ago when I found out he blocked my family from his social media and me from text messages. I did not understand what happened. I’ve spend this month trying to better myself and constantly going to the gym and yoga and constantly praying to every God, deity and saint I know that he remembers what we were and wants me back. Last night was trying to help out a coworker who also knew him with his troubles and my ex was brought up by him (he didn’t know about our relationship) and without me asking he told me that he had talked to him not long ago and my ex said he couldn’t be happier. He had found a woman ( the lady who he cheated on me with) they were together and very happy and even showed me a picture of them at a place where I took him on one of our first dates. I have been inconsolable since  he still has all of my stuff that I let him borrow including my laptop that I will be needing next month for school but now I’m not sure what to do…. I know this is very long but I really hope you read it and are able to help me… I don’t know anywhere else to go