I just went through the samething with my now ex. We dated for a year before we moved in together. I lived in another state and I had to wait for my oldest to graduate, and just to make sure things would work. After about 5 months, I just kept getting the gut feeling that he was not “the one”, I tried to ignore it, because I thought I loved him.
I seen how mean he could be to people and always felt bad for the person he was being mean to. His mother adored him, always talked him up to everyone. She adored him, but very overbearing, and he would warn me about how she could be. He was exactly like her, and he was the meanest to her.
One day he was mean to me, and I will never forget the look on his face and the words that came out of his mouth towards me. He said looking me dead in the eyes and said this. “You are nothing to me, you were nothing to me, you were just a bump in the road that I plowed through.” That’s when that gut feeling never went away.
When we finally ended it, He said the meanest things I ever heard, and could ever imagine. But as time goes on, I feel sorry for him more than anything else. He doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he acted, the things he done, or the things he said. I know just from that, that me feeling any other way but relieved to be away from a relationship like that was nothing but a blessing.

There are all kinds of abuse and what you are dealing with is emotional abuse , check with women shelters in your area as well as calling the abuse hothe line and see if there is anything they can do . The best thing you can do is write down in a journal all that is said to you by him and how it makes you feel, time dates everything. You will need this if you have to go to court. In order to leave him you need all the backing you can get. If anything you will have it as a reminder. Good luck

Hi Sylvie,

I’m sending you all the white light and intentions towards you finding a place all your own. I consider it done! So I’m speaking now to you while you are in the safety and sanity of your own pad:

The Number One Rule Going Forward is don’t subject your children to living with an unrelated man. They see (even subconsciously) you putting all your attention towards a stranger instead of to them. They see you becoming emotionally, mentally and psychically depleted. This has to stop! Let them (for once) have it be all about them. Time is fleeting and soon you can do whatever you want. Just make sure the next guy is worthy of you.

Blessings,

Inky