Dear Buddha123

I am sorry that you find yourself in this state.

Hey life is very simple if we let things be. You should move on. If something is meant to be yours, you dont have to struggle so hard for it and if something is not meant for you, things just keep dragging on and make us angry, guilty etc.

If he was really serious about you, he would have made the effort ages ago. He has moved on and so should you. Why do guys ignore ? I personally dont feel they do. They are just different from girls. The sooner we understand this, the easier it gets for us.

All of us (men or women) only ignore people when we feel they are not adding value to our life or letting us be us. Most people do not like passive aggressive traits in their loved ones. Have you ever ignored someone who let you be you and loved you for who you are ?

As for your question re: behaving wrongly. No, you didnt. You did what you felt right at the moment. Sometimes, our emotions take over control and it is hard then to rationalise a situation.

Have faith in yourself and move on. You have a beautiful life ahead of you if you let it be.

Blessings,

Jasmine

No worries Buddha123.

People can do what they want and how they want and when they want. That’s not the issue here though. You are confusing your own boundaries with others.

When you are hungry, do you look for validation from others to feed yourself or satisfy your hunger ? NO, right. Then, why is it that you are letting another person determine your happiness and peace in this world ?

He can do whatever he wants to do. What do you want ? Do you want peace and happiness or do you want confusion, anger and guilt ?

Decision is in your hands. If you decide to choose happiness and peace, then you need to move on from this gentleman and pay more attention to yourself and your needs. You cant let anyone just barge into your life whenever they want to. You set your boundaries clear, pls. If you choose confusion, anger and other negative emotions, then continue status quo.

Best wishes to you and I hope you will choose happiness and move forward with your head held high up.

Jasmine

Yeah, I understand Buddha123. Why would you be doing such things if you didn’t long for his love ? But again, it aint helping anything. He doesn’t appreciate you so why long for such a person’s love ?

So what if you are 32 ? Hey, finding a romantic relationship has nothing to do with age. Learn the lessons that this ex-relationship is trying to teach you and I am pretty sure that it wont be hard finding a nice bloke who will appreciate you when you meet him.

Most people in this world get along with people who let them be them. No judgments, no trust issues and not putting anyone down. If you can do that, you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a good match.

Good luck. Give yourself a chance, please 🙂 You are worth so much more.

Another thought ~ Sometimes an ex will call out of the blue to “test the energies”, not of you, but for themselves. They are looking for that energy of “the way things were”. The problem is, everyone grows and changes, and their old lines sound tired, even to themselves.

You were broke up for a reason. You two aren’t as young carefree people anymore, you are now a little more older grown ups. The energy of a 25 year old can be vastly different from a 30 year old’s. (You did bring up age!) 🙂

“Let the sperm chase the egg.” Meaning, let him do all the work. Yes, you can call him back, or say, “Sure, you want coffee? Let’s have coffee,” but you should really drop the rope. You tested the energies yourself and found they weren’t up to standards. You are the gatekeeper too, of your own heart.

Go out and meet someone new! 🙂

Hey Buddha123, your real test begins now. Pls dont let yourself down this time by getting in touch with him. Let him go. No one should take anyone for granted. You wont regret moving forward and I am sure Inky will agree with this 🙂

Lots of love,

Jasmine