So I broke up with my girlfriend recently like a few days ago after we had a fight.

To give some more back story, the two of us have been in a long distance relationship for about two years now having never met in person. From the start things were difficult as we are two very different people who wanted very different things, I want marriage and kids things she never even considered till I came along and even than she only started wanting those things after the first time I tried and failed to break up with her because she was being sweet and telling me how she will change and that ever since meeting me she has started reconsidering those things so I stayed with her.

During this time together again I will admit there was some red flags for me and we argued about them a lot we hardly ever went a week without arguing but somehow she convinced me that it was just the distance between us that caused us to argue and the fact that I was afraid of fights since my parents also argue often though not as bad as me and her. Our second breakup happened because she choose to work late with someone she knew has a huge crush on her something she knew I would not like as she could easily have chosen anyone else to work with and I know this part makes me sound a bit crazy and I won’t deny being the jealous type but she is a flirt and her ex is also always hanging around her trying to get her back and she did not ever put in much effort to tell her to stay away. Anyways during the second breakup I tried to cut her off completely a better term would probably be ghosting which I know is not a great thing to do but it seemed the easiest but her sister and best friend successfully guilt tripped me into going back to her.

Things were okay kinda my heart at this point was already so guarded but I tried my best to put everything into the relationship and it mostly went good for a while I avoided things I knew would lead to fights and tried my best to keep  the peace. She had to go to a different country for work and things got hard as she was depressed and pushing me away while still clinging to me, now I had no problem with her depression as I suffer from both depression and intrusive thoughts so while it was extremely emotionally draining for me to try and get her to see the bright side of things I did my best and made sure not to burden her with any troubles I might had. Than we got into a huge fight over the phone and she left her house in the middle of the night and left me thinking for hours that she got killed or worse not once thinking how scared I was for her when she finally did tell me she was fine I broke up with her which she did not take well and pretty much refused because in her mind I can’t break up with her it has to be a mutual agreement.

Now I have said my peace a few times and once again cut her off on most places except for email and of course her best friend and sister are on my case again too, telling me how unfair I am being and that I can’t do this and that they don’t want to lose her because of me, which how is any of that fair? Am I suppose to stay with her for her happiness?

Things that for me felt off:

Whenever I went out I always told her where I was going, what I was going to be doing and who I was going with but if I got home just a bit later than she liked she would get upset and ask where I was, who I was with and what I was doing questions she already knew the answer too.

Whenever I said something she didn’t like I was always “What is wrong with you” or “Why are you talking to me like this”.

And if I didn’t follow her advice it was always that I don’t respect her or listen to her.

She got jealous of my dogs sitting on my lap, because only she should be allowed to do that according to her.

And those are just a few of the things that felt off to me.

All I want to know is am I a terrible person for leaving her? Or is it the right thing to do?